LOVERS by Shan

Dr. Rena Malik is a urologist and pelvic surgeon who has built one of the most trusted platforms in men's sexual health by giving straight, evidence-based answers about the body. Her new book, The Hard Truth: Everything Men Need to Know for Good Health, Great Sex, and Long Life, is the guide she wishes every young man had.

You'll learn why erection trouble is often the first warning sign of heart disease, why low testosterone alone explains only about 3% of ED, and why 160 minutes of moderate cardio a week has been shown to improve erections on par with Viagra. Dr. Malik breaks down what semen retention can and can't do, why stopping your stream every time you pee can backfire, and why distracting yourself to last longer often makes things worse.

This episode covers erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, morning wood and nighttime erections, ED medications and gas station supplements, semen retention, pelvic floor health and Kegels, pain during sex for men, performance anxiety, death grip and masturbation habits, orgasm without an erection, how long sex actually lasts, cock rings and sex toys, and the four pillars of lifelong sexual health.

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Dr. Keeonna Harris was 14 when she got pregnant, and before her son turned one, his father, Jason Espinoza, was starting a 22-year prison sentence. For the next two decades she drove up and down California so her kids would know their dad, the story at the center of her memoir Mainline Mama. Jason came home after 20 years and now works inside prisons as a counselor with the Amity Foundation. Jeremiah Chin (now Keeonna's husband and a law professor at the University of Washington) came into her life as her marriage to Jason was ending, and the two men met in person for the first time at Zion's baseball game.

That game is the spine of this conversation, told from all three seats on the couch. Jason admits he showed up with no tools for anything but a fight. Keeonna walks away from one she once would have won and realizes her absence lands harder than her anger. Jeremiah decides he'd rather be the bridge between them than the wall.

This one is for anyone co-parenting across an old love. It's also for anyone whose family looks nothing like what they imagined, and who is still deciding what it can become.

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Tony Gaskins got his start because a friend told him he was the biggest player she'd ever known. Today he tells millions of women to wait until marriage, and he's upfront that the message comes straight out of a life he wouldn't repeat.

What actually protects people when it comes to sex: rules or education? Tony makes the case that most people are never taught how to vet a partner, so waiting is the safest bet. Shan makes the case for freedom with information, because fear-based sex ed has never worked, and once you're informed you get to choose your own way instead of being handed the way.

You'll hear what risk-informed consent means and the one thing they both land on underneath the disagreement: most of us never got a real conversation about sex and that is dangerous.

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Sabrina Zohar has built a career helping people see the patterns they learned before they could name them, and in this conversation she turns that lens on her own twenties.

At 24, she met a 36-year-old man three blocks from her apartment who opened her up sexually in ways nobody had before. It was also where she learned what self-abandonment looks like: saying yes to things (including his one condition for a relationship) because she liked him. She tells Shan about the trench coat in the rain story, and the night her mom said "this isn't you." Then she gets to the first date with her partner Ryan, when she told him she'd rather never hear from him again than be kept casual.

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Shaun Ross was the first professional male model with albinism, and in this conversation he tells Shan about the breakup he refuses to call a breakup, because he was never in the room for it. Two hours into an 11-hour flight home from Europe, he watched his partner leave on the home camera, and he later learned that plenty of people had known how his partner felt (everyone except him). Shan explains why the person who leaves has often finished grieving long before the other person finds out.

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