Have you ever wondered why your thoughts about yourself or pornography feel so automatic and unchangeable? So often we treat beliefs like facts, but many of the things we tell ourselves repeatedly are just thoughts we’ve rehearsed until they feel true. Learning to separate facts from beliefs is the first step in taking control of your mind and your habits. In this episode, I’m revisiting the beliefs and identity milestone, where we spend the most coaching time in the program. We focus on how repeated thoughts shape the beliefs you hold about yourself and pornography. By noticing these beliefs, questioning them, and identifying evidence that contradicts them, you can begin to shift how you think about yourself and your actions. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/changing-beliefs-identityClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass
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246. How Being “Mr. Nice Guy” Is Keeping You Stuck with Jessica
Have you noticed that trying to be “Mr. Nice Guy” or constantly people-pleasing can actually keep you stuck? On the surface, it may look like kindness or keeping the peace, but prioritizing others’ approval over your own needs often leads to resentment, disconnection, and the very behaviors you’re trying to overcome. In this episode, Coach Jessica explores how people-pleasing creates a cycle of self-abandonment disguised as kindness. She shares how to stop managing other people’s feelings, allow for discomfort in relationships, and engage in real, honest conversations that deepen connection. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/mr-nice-guy-stuck-jessicaClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass
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245. Be the Observer: You Are Not Your Thoughts
Do you find yourself believing every thought your brain throws at you? Our brains are wired to keep us safe, which often means defaulting to negativity and imagining worst-case scenarios. These patterns can create shame, frustration, and old habits that keep us stuck, including patterns around pornography use.In this episode, I explore how you can step back and observe your thoughts instead of automatically identifying with them. Thoughts aren’t facts, and simply noticing them can release the pressure, fear, and self-criticism that so often hold us back. I walk you through practical ways to practice being the observer each day, guiding your human body with care, and letting love, rather than judgment, direct your decisions. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/observer-you-not-your-thoughts
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244. Healing the Self-Judgmental Voice with Kat
Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-judgment, especially when dealing with pornography struggles? That critical voice in your head can feel like an unrelenting force, weakening you both mentally and physically. The longer this judgment lingers, the more it blocks your energy and affects everything from your stress response to your ability to sleep. In this episode, Coach Kat dives into how self-judgment creates a toxic cycle of anger, disappointment, and resentment, mirroring the shame cycle many face. Kat explores how this judgment manifests physically, causing your body to become constricted and stuck. She explains why forgiveness is the key to healing your self-judgmental voice and how it opens up space for peace, trust, and emotional freedom.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/healing-self-judgemental-voice-kat
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243. Rebuilding Your Mindset and Confidence with Hunter
Have you ever wondered why all your hard work to overcome pornography still leaves you stuck in the same patterns? Many people are primarily focusing on filters, routines, or counting days. They work hard, follow all the steps, and still find themselves stuck in the same patterns, wondering why their efforts aren’t paying off. In this episode, Coach Hunter explains why all of that misses the point. You’ll learn how to rebuild self-trust through small promises, why it’s critical to live from your future identity instead of your past, and how training your mindset like an elite athlete can change everything. Hunter shares practical strategies for moving from fear-based thinking to confidence-driven action so you can walk into each day knowing you are built to win.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/rebuilding-mindset-confidence-hunter
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