Parenting Together Apart Podcast

Last episode for the season!! This episode we share our thoughts on all the things we found hard when we first separated but got easier over time...owning our co-parenting status and not caring if people didn't understand it, letting go of that "perfect" fantasy of 2.5 children, dating and not having to see your co-parent everyday [or having to see them everyday] all takes some getting used to....
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Podcast: Circularity - The Redesign of Everything
Read: Esther Perel - The State of Affairs : Rethinking Infidelity
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On this episode Moni chats with Serafin Upton, a NZ based psychotherapist who specialises in recovering from narcissistic relationships and emotional abuse. She helps us understand narcissistic personality disorder vs narcissistic traits, identify and manage a relationship with a narcissist and how to support and protect your children from narcissistic abuse.
EPISODE RESOURCES
Read: Mark Ettensohn - Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life
Read: Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity : Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
Read: Esther Perel - The State of Affairs : Rethinking Infidelity
Podcast: Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Podcast Episode: Brené with Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce D. Perry on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Our Family Wizard App
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Serafin Upton's Wesbite: www.serafinupton.co.nz
Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣
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Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

On this episode Ellie chats with her co-parent Charlie Goldsmith. Hear what Charlie has to say about the importance of respecting and supporting the mother of your child/ren and the positive programming around relationships and communication this can create for them, why it’s better (and easier) to get along, building a community around your child as well as rewriting the narrative that being friends with your ex is “weird”.
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Charlies IG: @charliegoldsmith
Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣
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We share some tips for what to do next once the decision to separate has been made when you share children and one or both of you are thinking about how to start the co-parenting journey.
Introduction

Being clear about the decision to separate

Deciding the best living and child-sharing arrangements for your family

Managing communication and maintaining privacy

Finding a support person in a professional or trusted friend

Establishing early boundaries around parental decisions, sex and dating

Respecting someone else’s grieving period might be different to yours

How to manage your alone time when your child/ren is with the other parent

Honouring your feelings and resourcing / supporting yourself through them

Disclaimer: This episode is relevant to situations where there are two capable parents and children are safe in each parents hands.
SHOW LINKS
Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣
Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣
Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣
Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

We talk about handling arguments and conflict in your co-parenting / parenting relationship and how to come out of an argument better than when you went in.
Introduction

Arguments can be a good thing providing awareness about what your wounds are, where expectations aren’t being met or holes in your communication.

Arguments vs discussion

How attachment styles influence your ability to have hard discussions and handle conflict and knowing your co-parents attachment style is a sign of love.

Strategies to help when you’re in the midst of an argument

How to recover after an argument so you finish better off, not worse off.

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Book: Attached by Amir Levine HERE
Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣
Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣
Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣
Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_