Dating Anxiety, Attachment Styles & Nervous System Support with Harriet Iles
If dating/relationships feel like equal parts hope, overthinking, and emotional whiplash - this conversation is for you!I had the honour of sitting down with counsellor Harriet Iles of Restorative Space to explore the messy, very human world of dating anxiety. Harriet shares how she came to specialise in this work and the common patterns she sees - overthinking, fear, and the push-pull between craving connection and fearing rejection.They unpack what dating anxiety actually is and how listeners can recognise it in themselves, before diving into attachment styles e.g. secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganised, and how these patterns show up in early dating through texting, pacing, and decision-making.Harriet emphasises the importance of self-trust and nervous system regulation, explaining how grounding, somatic tools, and polyvagal-informed practices can help when anxiety spikes. She offers a simple, do-anywhere grounding exercise and shares ongoing habits to help build genuine self-belief and healthier relationship patterns.For more from the incredible Harriet, connect with her here on Instagram, or check out her website here. Disclaimer** The content of this podcast is provided for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for individual professional psychological, medical, or legal advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information presented to make decisions regarding their mental health or wellbeing. If you are experiencing distress, mental health concerns, or require professional support, you are advised to seek advice from a qualified health professional. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that the host and contributors cannot be held responsible for any actions taken based on the content provided.