Turns Out I'm Into It!

Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you.
As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of several. That’s the point. Desire isn’t one thing — and the more you understand your own, the more fun this whole world becomes.
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Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁
In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroticism.
Because the truth is, most of us aren’t just one thing. Our desires are layered, complex, and often a little contradictory… and that’s exactly what makes them so interesting!
If you’re curious to discover your own erototypes, you can download the free PDF guide or visit harleyrabbit.com and start meeting your own naughty little spirit animals. 🐰🐶🦁
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Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together.
The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rules. More often, it grows through the small rituals and routines we share every day — the little ways we show up for each other that quietly build trust over time. I share a few examples from my own relationship and invite you to notice the tiny moments that might already be strengthening yours.
Mentioned in this Episode:
Polysecure - by Jessica Fern
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Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them.
In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down might be the sexiest move you can make.
If you’re curious about trying claws yourself, you can check out J's work at clawsandclamps.com.au and use the code HARLEY for 10% off.
Mentioned in this episode:
Viroclean - hospital grade disinfectant
Are Nylon Claws Safe? - article 
Mindfulness Exercise 
Book recommendation:
Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams
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Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing…
Except it’s actually everywhere.
In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast, from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been woven into our culture all along.
Keep your eyes open. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
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It’s an honour to be shortlisted for Black Noise Magazine’s Kink Educator of the Year award. Huge thank you to Black Noise for supporting kink educators and helping our voices be heard. If you’d like to vote for me — or any of the other incredible nominees — click here.
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