#84: What Turns You On—and What Turns You Off! Understanding Your Sexual Brakes and Accelerators
Send us a textDo you ever feel like your body just isn’t showing up for sex—even when your mind is totally on board? Maybe you want to feel turned on, but nothing’s happening down there. Or maybe you feel ashamed, confused, or frustrated when your desire doesn’t match what your partner (or you!) expect.In this episode, Harley Rabbit introduces the dual control model, a powerful framework from the world of sexology that could change the way you think about arousal forever.You’ll learn how your sexual accelerator and brakes work, and how understanding these systems can help you navigate issues like low desire, erectile difficulties, body shame, and performance anxiety with more compassion, clarity, and confidence.Journaling Prompts:📝 Do I know what my core desires are? Am I getting them met in my sex life? 📝 Are there any external or internal threats pressing on my brakes right now? Can I do anything about them?Resources Mentioned:Emily Nagoski’s Book: Come As You ArePrevious Episode: #83: What If You Could Be Anyone? The Magic of Kink Personas🫖 Access the Aftershow! Subscribe to my SubscribeStar to get access to bonus content. 🏆 Vote for Turns Out I’m Into It in the Australian Adult Industry Awards. Your Invited to the Aftershow! Join my SubscribeStar to get a backstage pass to exclusive content!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#83: What If You Could Be Anyone? The Magic of Kink Personas
Send us a textEver felt too self-conscious to fully enjoy sex? Maybe you struggle to switch off from life stress, or you find yourself stuck in your head during intimate moments.In this episode, Harley Rabbit shares a powerful technique for breaking free from insecurity and fully immersing yourself in pleasure—by stepping into a kink persona.A kink persona isn’t just roleplay—it’s a way to tap into different aspects of yourself, experiment with new fantasies, and unleash parts of your sexuality you may never have explored before. Whether you're a creative storyteller, a fantasy-driven thinker, or just someone who struggles to stay present in sex, this episode will help you unlock new ways to play.Journaling / Discussion PromptsIf I could be anyone in a fantasy, who would I be?What kind of personality excites me in a sexual scenario? Am I dominant, submissive, playful, shy, aggressive?Write a short erotic fantasy from the perspective of your characterResources Mentioned:Join me in the Aftershow on my Subscriberstar. Visit: https://subscribestar.adult/harley-rabbit Support the Show:If you enjoyed this episode, consider:Sharing it with a friendLeaving a 5-star rating or reviewYour Invited to the Aftershow! Join my SubscribeStar to get a backstage pass to exclusive content!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#82: Sub or Bottom? Exploring the Many Flavours of Submission
Send us a textWhen you first explore submission, it’s easy to get caught up in labels and stereotypes—but what if those don’t quite fit? Do you have to love obedience, service, or degradation to be a sub? Or maybe you’re drawn to pain or bondage, but don’t feel like surrendering control?In this episode, Harley Rabbit helps you untangle your submissive identity, exploring the many ways submission can look. Whether you’re a good sub, brat, masochist, or rope bunny, this episode will guide you in discovering what truly excites you—without forcing yourself into a box that doesn’t fit.This one is for both subs and dominants, as we’ll also discuss how to recognise different submissive styles and find play partners who are the right match.Journaling / Discussion Prompts:Do I crave giving up control, or am I more drawn to sensory experiences?Do I get turned on by praise, punishment, resistance, or being cared for?How can I communicate my unique submission style with my partner(s)?Resources Mentioned:Previous Episode: #81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from the StereotypesJoin my Close Friends circle on Instagram @harley_rabbit. Password: Sleepybunny 🤫Support the Show:If you enjoyed this episode, consider:Sharing it with a friendLeaving a 5-star rating or reviewYour Invited to the Aftershow! Join my SubscribeStar to get a backstage pass to exclusive content!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from Stereotypes
Send us a textHave you ever wondered if you're kinky enough to belong in the kink community? Maybe you feel like you don’t fit the stereotypical Dominant/submissive (D/s) mold or that your desires aren’t “intense” enough to count. In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the many ways people explore kink—whether through full-time dynamics, occasional play, private fantasies, or even solo experiences.Kink doesn’t have to look one way, and there’s no test you need to pass to belong. We'll also explore some of the lesser-known types of kink, such as sensation play, fetishes, and solo kink practices, to highlight just how broad and personal kink can be. Whether you're just beginning your journey or questioning where you fit in, this episode will help you embrace your unique desires with confidence and curiosity.Journaling / Discussion Prompts:Do I ever compare my desires to others and feel like I don’t measure up?What lesser-known kinks am I curious to explore?Resources Mentioned:Previous Episode: #76: Are My Fantasies Normal? (A great companion episode to today’s discussion)Book a free call with Harley Support the Show:If you enjoyed this episode, consider:Sharing it with a friendLeaving a 5-star rating or reviewxx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#80: Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass – with Miss Gen
Send us a textIn this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by the incredible Miss Gen—Shibari educator, performer, and rope sadist. As head of Evil Girls HQ in Brisbane and a Shihan (Master Instructor) in Kazami Ryu Shibari, she has 25+ years of experience training with top rope masters and performing in Japan. We explore:🔹 Miss Gen’s journey into rope – From self-tying as a child to discovering her dominant side.🔹 The psychology of rope play – How energy, connection, and anticipation shape a scene.🔹 Shibari vs. Western bondage – Key differences in style, structure, and emotional depth.🔹 Performing in Japan – The world of Japanese rope bars, pink theatres & cultural attitudes.🔹 Building a rope community – How Miss Gen helped shape the Brisbane rope scene.Miss Gen shares why patience, negotiation, and connection are essential in rope. If you’re curious about Shibari, this episode is a must-listen!🌐 Follow Miss Gen at FetLife @MissEvilGenIG: @miss_gen_does_ropeWeb: evilgirlsHQ.com.au🔗 Resources & Mentions: Nuit de Tokyo – A must-follow on Fetlife for Shibari history & education Bar Ubu (Tokyo) – A famous rope bar in Japan📚 BooksShibari You Can Use - Lee HarringtonMore Shibari You Can Use - Lee HarringtonThe Seductive Art Of Japanese Bondage - MidoriThe Manual of Tying Shibari Your Invited to the Aftershow! Join my SubscribeStar to get a backstage pass to exclusive content!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
Turns Out I’m Into It is your backstage pass to the world of kink—where curiosity is queen, shame is stripped away, and nothing is off-limits. Hosted by somatic sexologist Harley Rabbit, this podcast delves into the psychology of desire, exploring how BDSM, power dynamics, and play can unlock self-discovery, intimacy, and even healing.From abduction fantasies to shibari, age play to non-monogamy, Harley serves up candid personal stories and juicy interviews with kink experts from around the globe. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster, a wide-eyed newbie, or just here for the naughty stories, this show will indulge your imagination, tickle your curiosity, and maybe—just maybe—have you whispering, turns out, I’m into it too!
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