#102: Three Ingredients for a Seriously Hot S&M Scene
Send us a textWhy does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just… well, hurt?In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender.I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of his mean side 😈). I also went to Miss Gen’s 10-year shibari anniversary cabaret, which was honestly breathtaking. Seeing those performances — including one by Kazami Ranki himself — gave me so much to think (and feel!) about when it comes to the psychology of pain and kink.In this episode, I share what I discovered about:Why power and vulnerability create such intense erotic charge.How attention — not just pain — is the secret sauce behind hot S&M.What surrender really feels like and what makes it possible.Why teasing, torment, and fear can actually feel incredible.If you’ve ever wondered how S&M can feel loving, connected, and insanely sexy all at once — this one’s for you.Mentioned in this EpisodeDeadmaxis - follow on Intragram @_deadmaxisxx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#101: Rope School! What We Learned from a Level 1 Shibari Intensive – with Slade
Send us a textThis week I’m joined once again by my partner, rigger, and Dom — Slade — as we unpack our recent experience completing Kazami-Ryu Level 1, a three-day Shibari intensive right here in Townsville.Together we share what it was really like to dive into formal rope training — the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the lessons learned from both sides of the rope.We explore:Slade's lessons in persistence as an aspiring rigger Harley's insights on how mindset can have a major effect on pain toleranceThe difference between playful rope and “lab-mode” learningHow rope journaling can be a creative way to integrate learningWhen to upgrade your ropeNavigating comparison and confidence in group learningThe importance of having fun and being a supportive partnerThis one feels like you’re sitting down with us for a casual chat about rope over a few drinks. Neither of us are experts — but sometimes that makes the experience even more relatable for those who are also new to this world.From bleeding fingers and proud time-trials to unexpected moments of calm and connection, this episode is both an inside look at structured rope education and a love letter to the art of learning together.Special thanks to Basanos and Angel for bringing their amazing skills and tuition to our little town!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#100: Episode 100! Let's Celebrate Together 🎉
Send us a textWe did it! Turns Out I’m Into It has officially hit 100 episodes. This week isn’t just about celebrating the podcast milestone, it’s about celebrating you and everything you’ve achieved in your kinky journey so far. From building the courage to reach out to new partners, to finding your voice around desires and boundaries, to embracing your kinks without shame—these are massive wins, and today we’re raising a glass (or a cup of tea, in my case) to every step you’ve taken.In this episode, I share:Highlights and behind-the-scenes moments from 100 episode.The hardest episode I ever recorded (and why it mattered so much)The most popular episodes to date—including the one about blowjobs that has now had 4,000+ plays 😉My reflections on how the show has grown, how I’ve grown, and where we’re heading nextAnd of course, I’ll invite you to take a moment to celebrate yourself—whether that means a fancy coffee, a cheeky night out, or yes, maybe even some dirty fun!Thank you for being here, for listening, and for being part of this community. Here’s to the next 100!Mentioned in this epsiode:#32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator#49: How to Give INSANE Blowjobs - Even if you Can't D********t#54: I Had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened#67: My Schoolgirl Fantasy - Exploring Middlespace#80 Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass - with Miss Gen#87: The Love Language of Rope - with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey#93: Harley Gets Schooled in Dirty Talk - A Masterclass with Sam Charlesxx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#99: Roleplay Lite - An Easy Guide for the Roleplay-Curious
Send us a textWhen most people hear roleplay, they instantly cringe. They think of awkward classroom exercises, bad accents, or being forced to improvise lines in front of other people. No wonder it feels intimidating in the bedroom!But roleplay doesn’t have to be awkward or over the top. In this episode, I share how to make roleplay simple, sexy, and fun—without needing costumes, scripts, or a Broadway-level performance.I’ll walk you through:Why roleplay isn’t about “faking it”—it’s about giving your hidden selves permission to take the leadEasy components (like collars, boots, glasses, or positions) that can spark whole fantasiesHow to use mini-scenes (short, playful roleplays that last just a few minutes) to take the pressure offWhy solo roleplay can be an amazing way to explore on your own, no judgment requiredBy the end of this episode, you’ll have plenty of ideas to bring a little fantasy into your sex life in ways that feel authentic and playful—without all the cringe.Prompts to ExploreHow do you feel about roleplay right now—excited, nervous, silly, curious?What hidden selves could you lean into?What’s one simple component (a prop, a position, or a mood shift) that you’d like to try?Can you imagine a short mini-scene, either with a partner or solo, that feels fun or intriguing?If you enjoy the episode, a 5-star rating really helps more people discover the show. And if you’d like to see a more personal side of me, DM me (@harley_rabbit) the word “playful” on Instagram and I’ll add you to my Close Friends group.Further Listening:#28: Sleep Play - The Gateway Kink to CNC? #90: Behind the Mask - A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#98: Why do we Celebrate Risk Everywhere Except in Sex?
Send us a textIn last week’s episode, I talked about the “kink police” — the people who project their authority onto others and try to dictate how kink “should” be done. This week, I want to explore a different kind of projection: when people put their fears onto your choices.Agency in kink is usually talked about in terms of safety — boundaries, consent, protecting ourselves. And that’s vital. But agency is more than just the right to say no. It’s also the right to say yes to risks that matter to you.Here’s what I cover in this episode:Why agency isn’t just about safety, but also about the right to risk.How society celebrates risk in sports and travel, but shames it in sex.My personal story of doing a rope-in-water scene despite warnings.What I learned from Cruciator about scenes without safe words.Why safe words are tools, not substitutes for attunement and connection.I’d love for you to reflect: What does agency mean to you? Where’s your line between whats ok and not ok in kink? And do you think we sometimes rely too much on safe words?🔗 Don’t forget to take part in my listener survey (link in the show notes). Your feedback helps me keep shaping this podcast for your journey.Further Listening#94: Seduced by Fear: Cruciator on the Dark Side of Desire#91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (episode about attunement)#33: Tied up in a Pool - Not What I Expected!#32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciatorxx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
Turns Out I’m Into It is your backstage pass to the world of kink—where curiosity is queen, shame is stripped away, and nothing is off-limits. Hosted by somatic sexologist Harley Rabbit, this podcast delves into the psychology of desire, exploring how BDSM, power dynamics, and play can unlock self-discovery, intimacy, and even healing.From abduction fantasies to shibari, age play to non-monogamy, Harley serves up candid personal stories and juicy interviews with kink experts from around the globe. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster, a wide-eyed newbie, or just here for the naughty stories, this show will indulge your imagination, tickle your curiosity, and maybe—just maybe—have you whispering, turns out, I’m into it too!
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