Turns Out I’m Into It is your backstage pass to the world of kink—where curiosity is queen, shame is stripped away, and nothing is off-limits. Hosted by somatic...
#83: What If You Could Be Anyone? The Magic of Kink Personas
Send us a textEver felt too self-conscious to fully enjoy sex? Maybe you struggle to switch off from life stress, or you find yourself stuck in your head during intimate moments.In this episode, Harley Rabbit shares a powerful technique for breaking free from insecurity and fully immersing yourself in pleasure—by stepping into a kink persona.A kink persona isn’t just roleplay—it’s a way to tap into different aspects of yourself, experiment with new fantasies, and unleash parts of your sexuality you may never have explored before. Whether you're a creative storyteller, a fantasy-driven thinker, or just someone who struggles to stay present in sex, this episode will help you unlock new ways to play.Journaling / Discussion PromptsIf I could be anyone in a fantasy, who would I be?What kind of personality excites me in a sexual scenario? Am I dominant, submissive, playful, shy, aggressive?Write a short erotic fantasy from the perspective of your characterResources Mentioned:Join me in the Aftershow on my Subscriberstar. Visit: https://subscribestar.adult/harley-rabbit Support the Show:If you enjoyed this episode, consider:Sharing it with a friendLeaving a 5-star rating or reviewIf you are interested in getting private coaching with Harley, visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#82: Sub or Bottom? Exploring the Many Flavours of Submission
Send us a textWhen you first explore submission, it’s easy to get caught up in labels and stereotypes—but what if those don’t quite fit? Do you have to love obedience, service, or degradation to be a sub? Or maybe you’re drawn to pain or bondage, but don’t feel like surrendering control?In this episode, Harley Rabbit helps you untangle your submissive identity, exploring the many ways submission can look. Whether you’re a good sub, brat, masochist, or rope bunny, this episode will guide you in discovering what truly excites you—without forcing yourself into a box that doesn’t fit.This one is for both subs and dominants, as we’ll also discuss how to recognise different submissive styles and find play partners who are the right match.Journaling / Discussion Prompts:Do I crave giving up control, or am I more drawn to sensory experiences?Do I get turned on by praise, punishment, resistance, or being cared for?How can I communicate my unique submission style with my partner(s)?Resources Mentioned:Previous Episode: #81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from the StereotypesJoin my Close Friends circle on Instagram @harley_rabbit. Password: Sleepybunny 🤫Support the Show:If you enjoyed this episode, consider:Sharing it with a friendLeaving a 5-star rating or reviewIf you are interested in getting private coaching with Harley, visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from Stereotypes
Send us a textHave you ever wondered if you're kinky enough to belong in the kink community? Maybe you feel like you don’t fit the stereotypical Dominant/submissive (D/s) mold or that your desires aren’t “intense” enough to count. In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the many ways people explore kink—whether through full-time dynamics, occasional play, private fantasies, or even solo experiences.Kink doesn’t have to look one way, and there’s no test you need to pass to belong. We'll also explore some of the lesser-known types of kink, such as sensation play, fetishes, and solo kink practices, to highlight just how broad and personal kink can be. Whether you're just beginning your journey or questioning where you fit in, this episode will help you embrace your unique desires with confidence and curiosity.Journaling / Discussion Prompts:Do I ever compare my desires to others and feel like I don’t measure up?What lesser-known kinks am I curious to explore?Resources Mentioned:Previous Episode: #76: Are My Fantasies Normal? (A great companion episode to today’s discussion)Book a free call with Harley Support the Show:If you enjoyed this episode, consider:Sharing it with a friendLeaving a 5-star rating or reviewxx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#80: Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass – with Miss Gen
Send us a textIn this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by the incredible Miss Gen—Shibari educator, performer, and rope sadist. As head of Evil Girls HQ in Brisbane and a Shihan (Master Instructor) in Kazami Ryu Shibari, she has 25+ years of experience training with top rope masters and performing in Japan. We explore:🔹 Miss Gen’s journey into rope – From self-tying as a child to discovering her dominant side.🔹 The psychology of rope play – How energy, connection, and anticipation shape a scene.🔹 Shibari vs. Western bondage – Key differences in style, structure, and emotional depth.🔹 Performing in Japan – The world of Japanese rope bars, pink theatres & cultural attitudes.🔹 Building a rope community – How Miss Gen helped shape the Brisbane rope scene.Miss Gen shares why patience, negotiation, and connection are essential in rope. If you’re curious about Shibari, this episode is a must-listen!🌐 Follow Miss Gen at FetLife @MissEvilGenIG: @miss_gen_does_ropeWeb: evilgirlsHQ.com.au🔗 Resources & Mentions: Nuit de Tokyo – A must-follow on Fetlife for Shibari history & education Bar Ubu (Tokyo) – A famous rope bar in Japan📚 BooksShibari You Can Use - Lee HarringtonMore Shibari You Can Use - Lee HarringtonThe Seductive Art Of Japanese Bondage - MidoriThe Manual of Tying Shibari Kushiel’s Dart - JaIf you are interested in getting private coaching with Harley, visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#79: How to Play with Gender in BDSM
Send us a textMost people don’t realise just how much gender shapes the way we play in BDSM. Whether we’re leaning into traditional roles—like masculine dominance and feminine submission—or subverting them entirely, gender dynamics influence kink in ways we often don’t even notice.In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, we dive into:🔹 How gender roles show up in BDSM🔹 Masculine dominance vs. feminine submission – Why it turns us on🔹 Subverting gender norms – Femdom, feminisation, and sissification in play🔹 The shadow self & kink – Why our desires often contradict our vanilla life values🔹 De-shaming gendered kinks & embracing what excites you🔹 Practical ways to explore gender roles in BDSMJournaling Prompts from This Episode🖊 Want to explore gender in your BDSM play? Use these prompts to reflect on your desires:Do I feel more aroused by reinforcing traditional gender roles or subverting them—or both?Are there fantasies I’ve been afraid to explore because they challenge how I see myself?What aspects of gender am I curious about playing with in a kink setting?If you loved this episode, leave a 5-star review and share it with your kinky friends! 💜xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
Turns Out I’m Into It is your backstage pass to the world of kink—where curiosity is queen, shame is stripped away, and nothing is off-limits. Hosted by somatic sexologist Harley Rabbit, this podcast delves into the psychology of desire, exploring how BDSM, power dynamics, and play can unlock self-discovery, intimacy, and even healing.From abduction fantasies to shibari, age play to non-monogamy, Harley serves up candid personal stories and juicy interviews with kink experts from around the globe. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster, a wide-eyed newbie, or just here for the naughty stories, this show will indulge your imagination, tickle your curiosity, and maybe—just maybe—have you whispering, turns out, I’m into it too!
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