#91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (That You Can Learn Right Now)
Send us a textWhat if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes?In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink: attunement.We explore:🔹 What attunement is 🔹 How to attune to yourself and how to attune to others 🔹 Why attunement is crucial for both Doms and subs 🔹 What gets in the way of staying present during play 🔹 How attunement makes scenes hotter, deeper, and more emotionally fulfilling🎁 This episode includes TWO free guided exercises you can use to start practising attunement today—either solo or with a partner. These are powerful tools to help you tune in, connect, and get more out of your kink scenes right away.Whether you’re brand new to kink or have been in the scene for years, this episode is a powerful reminder that technique means nothing without genuine connection.Mentioned in this EpisodeEpisode #89 Kink in a Small Town and Finding My Brave1) Self Attunement Exercise Set a timer for 5 minutes.Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes.Gently scan your body from head to toe.What sensations do you notice?Are there any areas of tension, warmth, pressure, openness, tingling?Pick one sensation that stands out. Stay with it for a minute.Does it shift? Intensify? Fade?What emotion might be connected to it?Ask: What does this part of me need?A breath? Movement? A hand placed there?Respond with a small, compassionate action.2) Attuning to a Partner ExerciseSit facing each other. Set a timer for 5–10 minutes.Choose one person to be the "noticer" and one to be the "receiver."The noticer silently observes the receiver’s body—posture, breath, expression, energy.Ask internally: What do I notice? Offer your observations gently (e.g., “I noticed your shoulders softened when I smiled.”)Swap roles. At the end, reflect:What was it like to be seen that way?What did you learn about your partner?Want to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#90: Behind the Mask – A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash
Send us a textI’ll be honest, I used to think pony play sounded… a little silly. But after discovering Rapidash’s stunning photos and hearing the depth of feeling behind his scenes, I realised there was a whole lot more to this kink I didn’t understand. It's actually incredible! In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by a very special guest: Desmond—also known in the kink world as Rapidash. Desmond is a passionate pony player who generously opens up about his journey, the beauty of pony play, and what it means to fully embody an alter ego with power, grace, and heart.We explore:🔹 What pony play is (and what it isn’t) 🔹 The difference between cosplay and full pony embodiment 🔹 Asexual kink and why eroticism isn’t always the goal 🔹 The psychological state known as “pony headspace” 🔹 What it feels like to transform into Rapidash 🔹 Tack, hooves, and creating a beautiful visual aesthetic 🔹 Types of scenes – from carting and dressage to solo play and bondage 🔹 Finding community and navigating rare kinks in AustraliaDesmond’s description of pony play as a living work of art—and Rapidash as a grander, more majestic version of himself—will stay with me for a long time. Whether you’re totally new to this kink or simply intrigued, this heartfelt, vulnerable conversation is a beautiful window into an often-misunderstood world.🐴 Follow Rapidash:FetLife: -Rapidash-Intagram: @-rapidash_1📚 Book recommendation: The Human Pony by Rebecca Wilcox🔗 Mentions & Resources:Cpony.com – A detailed educational site about pony playEtsy – For custom hooves and pony gearWild Gas Masks, Bob Basset, Fury Fantasy – Gear creators mentionedHorseLand (AU) – Mainstream horse supplies that double as tackFetLife Pony Play groups – Great for community, education, and connectionWant to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#89: Kink in a Small Town, and Finding my Brave
Send us a textIn this solo episode, I share a very personal update from my kinky life. I’m four years into a deeply loving dynamic with my Dom, and while I feel supported and safe, I’ve also been feeling stuck. Living in a regional town means fewer opportunities to explore kink in the ways I crave—and that’s pushed me to make some scary (but exciting) decisions about what comes next.You’ll hear about:The beautiful and frustrating reality of being a regional kinksterHow my dynamic with Slade is evolving after four years togetherWhy craving more doesn’t mean something’s wrongWhat we’ve been experimenting with using bamboo polesReclaiming independence as a submissive—and why it’s complicatedThis is a soft, honest look at what happens when your kink journey keeps growing—and you're not quite sure where it's going to take you.Mentioned in this EpisodeBody Words ExhibitionWant to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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Bonus Episode – Age Play Show & Tell (Aftershow Sneak Peek) 🤫
Send us a textThis week, I’m giving you a special sneak peek into my Aftershow—a members-only video series where I share behind-the-scenes content for those who want to go deeper after the podcast. Normally, this content is exclusive to my SubscribeStar supporters—but today, I wanted to give you a little taste! 💜In this episode, I’m coming to you from my bedroom for a playful age play show and tell. From Harry Potter pyjamas to unicorn storybooks and pacifiers, I share some of my favourite little items—and how my relationship with age play has evolved over the years.🎁 You’ll hear about: – My very first age play item (still in rotation!) – The soothing power of sucking (yes, that kind too 😏) – Slade’s soft, nurturing daddy energy – Magical bedtime rituals, complete with star projectors and plushies – Why age play feels more comforting—and less taboo—than ever before🖤 Want to see the full episode—and unlock all my Aftershows? Join me on SubscribeStar for full video access and even more bonus content you won’t hear on the main show.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
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#88: I’m a Grown Man. And I Wear Nappies - Inside ABDL with DaddaG
Send us a textIn this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined once again by the incredible DaddaG—event organiser behind KangaCon and long-time member of the ABDL community. With over 20 years of experience as both a diaper lover and caregiver, DaddaG brings a deep, compassionate perspective to the world of age play.We explore:🔹 Different age play roles – AB, DL, Daddy, and switching 🔹 Consent, boundaries, and what to ask before your first scene 🔹 How to approach a partner about your age play desires 🔹 Emotional connection in caregiver/little dynamics 🔹 The importance of balance, realism, and self-care 🔹 How KangaCon is evolving—and what’s nextDaddaG shares personal stories from his decades in the community, including what it means to see someone fully relax into their little self, how to read cues in a scene, and why honouring vulnerability is at the heart of good caregiving. Whether you’re brand new or deeply immersed in this world, you’ll find plenty to reflect on in this thoughtful and heartwarming episode.🌐 Follow DaddaG on FetLife: @DaddaG (Daddy/Caregiver profile) @ToddlerBoyGis3 (Little side profile)📚 Book recommendation: Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb – Sexologist and author supporting ABDL and age players in embracing who they are and overcoming shame. Check out her books 'You're Not Broken' and 'No More Hiding' 🔗 thediaperdoctor.com 🔗 Mentions & Resources:KangaCon – Australia’s first age play conventionCapCon, Tomcat, TeddyCon – Community ABDL eventsDark Age Play – A growing area of interest for future events. You can find an excellent description here. Want private coaching with Harley? Visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com
Turns Out I’m Into It is your backstage pass to the world of kink—where curiosity is queen, shame is stripped away, and nothing is off-limits. Hosted by somatic sexologist Harley Rabbit, this podcast delves into the psychology of desire, exploring how BDSM, power dynamics, and play can unlock self-discovery, intimacy, and even healing.From abduction fantasies to shibari, age play to non-monogamy, Harley serves up candid personal stories and juicy interviews with kink experts from around the globe. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster, a wide-eyed newbie, or just here for the naughty stories, this show will indulge your imagination, tickle your curiosity, and maybe—just maybe—have you whispering, turns out, I’m into it too!
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