Binge Eating Breakthrough

Does it ever feel like you are living a double life? Where you eat one way around other people but a completely different way in secret? Do you have a part of you that wants to hide your eating behaviors but don't understand why you do it or how to stop?
In this episode, I share from my own experience of hiding my binge eating for years, including a memory of sneaking food as a young child, and explore why secret eating and hiding food make complete sense as a protective strategy, and what it actually takes to begin stepping out of it.
What You'll Discover:
Why secret eating and hiding food aren't character flaws and what the part doing the hiding is actually trying to do
Why the hiding tends to increase the shame over time and what living a double life around food costs over time
What the part that hides actually needs and why forced accountability tends to backfire
Why the first step out of hiding has nothing to do with telling anyone and everything to do with how you see yourself
If you've been carrying this alone, whether no one knows at all or the people in your life only know part of it, this episode is for you.
Previous episodes referenced:
How to Talk to Your Loved Ones About Your Secret Eating
Understanding the Part of You That Wants to Binge (Part 1)
If you would like to explore getting support with your eating challenges, schedule a Breakthrough Call today.
Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.

If the idea of feeling safe in your body sounds unfamiliar, or even a little strange, you're not alone. In this episode we explore why so many people disconnect from their bodies in the first place, why that disconnection makes complete sense as a nervous system response, and what safety in the body actually feels like when you begin to find it. 
You'll also get a short guided experience to help you recognize that feeling for yourself, and one simple daily practice to start building it.
What You'll Discover:
Why disconnecting from your body is a nervous system adaptation, not a character flaw
How the two-way communication between your brain and body shapes your relationship with food
What feeling safe in your body actually feels like, and how to begin recognizing it
Why this work is often hard to do alone, and what co-regulation makes possible 
If you've ever wondered why you reach for food even when you're not hungry, or why being still and quiet feels unbearable, this episode may answer questions you didn't know you had. 
Want to go deeper? 
Explore The Gathering, a monthly guided experience to learn how to trust yourself.
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Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.

You did the work to let go of the rules, challenge the rigidity, and give yourself permission to eat freely. And then the pendulum swung in the other direction, and the freedom didn't feel like freedom at all. 
This episode is for anyone who has experienced food freedom and found it more complicated than expected, and for anyone holding tightly to restriction because the other end of the pendulum looks too frightening to risk.
This episode explores what's actually happening when food freedom feels like it's working against you, and what it looks like when the pendulum finally stops swinging in either direction.
What You'll Discover:
The difference between food freedom and body connection 
Why the pendulum swing happens and what's actually happening in the body when freedom feels out of control
What real food freedom feels like and how to start imagining that for yourself
A question to sit with to begin developing your own definition of food freedom
If you're wondering what it looks like to do this deeper work with support, schedule a Breakthrough Call today. 
This is the third episode in a three-part series on what happens when the old strategies stop working. Listen to the first two episodes here:
How to Measure Success Beyond the Scale  
What If I Need to Lose Weight for My Health?
 
Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.

This episode comes directly from a listener question, one I hear in some form regularly. What do you do when your doctor has told you that losing weight is medically necessary, but everything you've tried has kept you stuck in the same cycle? 
With her permission, I share a message from a listener who has been in the binge and restrict cycle for over 45 years and is navigating real health consequences. We discuss why restriction, even for medical reasons, keeps the cycle spinning, and what it actually looks like to work toward health when the scale has been the only measure you've ever known.
What You'll Discover:
Why restriction backfires even when the medical reason for it is real and serious
How to hold both truths at once: your doctor's concern is valid, and another diet is not the answer
What to focus on instead of body size and why these behaviors directly support the health markers that matter
Why what you focus on expands, and how shifting from "what to lose" to "what to add" changes everything
If you've ever felt caught between a medical recommendation and the knowledge that dieting makes things worse for you, this episode is for you.
Previous episode referenced: Supportive Structure
If you would like to explore getting support with your eating challenges, schedule a Breakthrough Call today.

Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.

If the number on the scale has been your primary way of knowing whether things are going well with food, this episode is for you. A conversation with a new client, who is literally a scientist, sparked something I knew I had to bring to the podcast.
You can be making real progress, feeling calmer around food, binging less, feeling more connected, and still find yourself on the scale waiting for the number to confirm what you're already experiencing. And when it doesn't? All that real progress disappears.
In this episode, I talk about why the scale is measuring the wrong thing entirely, what it actually means to track success in your relationship with food, and what I've seen in my own experience when a number became the thing I was chasing.
What You'll Discover:
Why chasing a number keeps you in monitoring mode rather than in connection with yourself
What the scale can't measure and why that data matters more than the number
My own experience with using the scale as a measure of control, and what I can see now that I couldn't then
What to do with the scale if you're not ready to put it away entirely
If you've ever felt like you were making progress, only to have the scale talk you out of it, this episode will give you a different way to measure what's actually happening.
If you want to know what it would look like to explore this with support, schedule a Breakthrough Call today.
Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.