Dating Intentionally

Alli Goldberg (back for round 2!) is the creator and host of Love Isn't Blind, the live dating show where the men can't speak, and she's now hosted nearly 100 shows across 10 cities. That means she's interviewed over 800 men, and she has thoughts. Alli shares what patterns she's noticed from all those interviews, including the surprisingly beautiful things men say about what they're looking for. We talk about why couples need to be better wingpeople, why women need to get over being scared of men if they want to date them, and what positive masculinity actually looks like. Alli also shares her own setup success story. Plus, we answer a dating dilemma from a guy who keeps having great first dates but can't seem to get to date two.

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I'm sharing my experiences with saying "I love you" for the first time, from awkwardly blurting it out in a noisy subway station to intentionally saying it over the phone. I'm covering the signs you're actually in love, when to say those three little words, and my advice for being the person who says it first, which, yes, I've done in almost every relationship. I also get into what to do if they're not ready to say it back, how often to say it after the first time, and why both saying and showing love matter equally. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma: a woman who put real effort into romancing her partner, only to be told at the 3-month mark that she didn't do enough.

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I'm chatting with Rory Uphold, a writer and the author of The Final Girl's Guide to the Horrors of Dating, a book that uses the horror movie framework to help people navigate modern dating. We're discussing everything from how rom-coms groomed us for romantic disappointment and taught women to be chosen instead of the chooser, to the devastating breakup that turned Rory into a final girl, to what she did to rebuild her life after (spoiler: it wasn't therapy). Rory also shares three powerful pieces of advice from her book, including the truth about the walls we build when we're younger, and the walls we have to tear down when we're older. At the end, we tackle two listener questions about grief in relationships and whether to give a former situationship another chance.
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You know you want to be with your partner for a long time, but how do you know when to move in? Today I'm sharing everything I've learned about moving in with a partner, from knowing when you're ready to navigating daily life together. I cover the emotional and practical signs you're ready to cohabitate, the red flags that you're not, and why you need to talk about your relationship timeline first. Then I answer your Instagram questions about handling habit differences, avoiding getting on each other's nerves, managing income disparities, keeping romance alive, and so much more. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma: should you start dating again while unemployed?

Episodes & Resources Mentioned:
Ep 20: Questions to discuss before moving in together
Ep 213: Tara Laferrara on keeping romance alive
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Author and educator Laura Danger (@thatdarnchat) brought weaponized incompetence and the nag paradox into the mainstream, and today she's here to talk about how these dynamics can show up way before you're married with kids. We get into the early warning signs of domestic inequity you can spot while dating, the green flags that actually matter for a long-term partnership, and what a truly collaborative relationship looks like day to day. Plus, Laura shares her unexpectedly romantic love story, we unpack why "happy wife, happy life" makes me cringe, and we tackle a dating dilemma from someone who started dating their roommate.

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