Dating Intentionally

I went on about 150 dates with over 60 people in a year before I met my now husband, and don't for a second think "hope" is what got me through it and kept me motivated. In this episode, which originally aired in 2024, I'm sharing why hope is useless and what to focus on instead: your beliefs. I didn't hope I'd meet someone; I believed it was inevitable. Listen to this episode if you're ready to work on your beliefs so you don't burn out after the rejection, false starts, and ghosting (that's also inevitable if you're dating). At the end, I get into a new dating dilemma about a dramatic reaction to a last-minute date switch-up.
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Episode #68 with Jackie Glaser (self-worth + beliefs)
Thank you, More Please by Lily Womble
F the Fairytale by Damona Hoffman
Breakup Bootcamp by Amy Chan
How to Identify Your Needs course

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I'm chatting with Rebecca Ore, a relationship coach and former anxiously attached dater who transformed her own relationship experience after discovering thought work and coaching. We're discussing everything from why you feel totally fine when you're single but fall apart the second you start liking someone, to what it actually means to stop trying to control your partner and start coming back to yourself. Rebecca also shares her personal experience of learning to separate her self-worth from how others treat her, and how that shift changed everything in her current relationship. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who had a five-hour first date and hadn't heard from them two days later.

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In this episode, I'm answering four listener dating dilemmas, from deciding whether a "boring" but stable guy is worth more dates to navigating attraction when everything else aligns, to catching feelings for a newly single college friend, to dealing with a breadcrumbing bartender. I'm sharing how to tell the difference between "boring" and "bored," a better way to think about attraction, and why "right person, wrong time" is a trap.
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I'm chatting with Dr. Jennie Young, creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method and author of the brand-new book Burn the Haystack, on round two! This time, we're getting into everything from her own success story to how to spot toxic dating coaches to why the "ick" deserves way more credit than it gets. Jennie also breaks down how she uses Burn the Haystack beyond the apps, the rhetorical patterns that didn't make it into the book, and the exact opening prompt that reveals her matches political affiliation 99% of the time. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a woman two and a half months into a relationship with a really nice guy she just isn't falling for.
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Listen to our first conversation about Burned Haystack
Read Jennie's Substack

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I'm getting into relationship rumination and that "should I stay or should I go" loop that keeps you stuck without ever actually making a decision. I'm covering the science behind why your brain does this, the difference between ambivalence and relationship anxiety, and a set of guided reflection questions to help you figure out what you actually want. I also share my own experience ruminating for years before leaving my ex, answer listener questions from Instagram about dealbreakers, timelines, and finding the courage to leave, and give you practical tips for breaking the cycle. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend of four years has always said he can't marry her.

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