Dating Intentionally

I'm getting into relationship rumination and that "should I stay or should I go" loop that keeps you stuck without ever actually making a decision. I'm covering the science behind why your brain does this, the difference between ambivalence and relationship anxiety, and a set of guided reflection questions to help you figure out what you actually want. I also share my own experience ruminating for years before leaving my ex, answer listener questions from Instagram about dealbreakers, timelines, and finding the courage to leave, and give you practical tips for breaking the cycle. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend of four years has always said he can't marry her.

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I'm chatting with Rikki Cloos, the creator and author of Anxious Hearts Guide, one of the most grounded, accessible resources out there for healing insecure attachment. We're discussing communication mistakes most of us make without realizing it, why the words we say rarely match what we actually mean, and how that gap affects relationships. Rikki also shares her framework for improving communication and the seven relationship agreements she has with her husband. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who's been in couples therapy for months but is somehow feeling more distant from her partner.
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Episode 48 - all about getting your needs met as an anxiously attached person

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In this episode, I'm breaking down five practical ways to show interest in early dating, even if you're shy, introverted, or just plain terrified. I'm covering what works, no matter how comfortable you are with dating, and why most people hold back too much. Plus, I share some truly cringe-worthy things my listeners (and I) have done to show interest, and at the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether you should give someone feedback after you've already moved on.

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Ep 244 - Building Inner Safety & Security

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I'm chatting with Eric Resnick, a dating profile expert with over 20 years of experience and 40,000+ profiles reviewed. We're discussing everything from why Bumble and Tinder are emotionally unhealthy by design, to what your photos are actually saying about you, to how to fix a profile that's getting zero matches, or way too many of the wrong ones. Eric also shares why women need to stop being passive on the apps and what a truly conversation-starting profile actually looks like. At the end, we review two real listener profiles live and break down exactly what to change.

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I'm answering five dating dilemmas that all circle the same messy truth: early dating is confusing, and you're not alone if you feel like you and your date are on completely different planets. Dating dilemmas:
She's 5 dates in with a guy who's sweet in person, but is still active on the apps.
She's keeps leaving great first dates only to wait in silence, wondering if she should just text first or hold out.
He says he's "open-minded" and she's trying to figure out if that's a green light or a waste of her time.
She met a guy at a party, he kissed her and begged her to text him... then gave her the wrong number.
Men on the apps keep asking her out in their very first message, then disappearing when she asks to chat first.

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