SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’m 32 and should be at my prime sexually, but feel like I’m an intensely boring lover. I want to be wild and uninhibited, and the sort of lover men think about for the rest of their lives. But I’m so vanilla, I don’t even know how to be wildly sexy, or what sort of things that would include.

2) I’m happily married, but, like anyone in a monogamous relationship, a bit bored. I have never had a threesome, but would love to have one. My fear is that even asking my wife to have one will lead to her never talking to me ever again. How can I suss her out without causing issues?

3) Our last ever question on SexTok isn’t a question—it’s a round-up of what Kelsey and Tracey think are the most important things to do if you want to be a happy couple. Some tips to live your life by...

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’m dating again after a divorce and have met a new man I really like, but I’m convinced he’s faking orgasms. Why would he do this, and should I say something?

2) I’ve been with my new girlfriend for four months, and although I’ve given her oral sex every single time we make love, not once has she offered to reciprocate. I’ve made jokes about it, but she says it's just never been something she's keen on, although she doesn't have any real objections. I thought things would change as she felt more comfortable, but they haven’t. How do I handle this?

3) I have a smaller than average penis. It’s never been a problem with girlfriends because I give lots of oral sex. It doesn’t bother me—if anything, it’s made me a better lover because I can’t rely on penetration. But every girlfriend has registered surprise when she first sees it. Should I warn potential lovers beforehand, or just make a joke when all is revealed, which is what I do now? I don’t want to make women feel uncomfortable.

To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU

Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My wife has an extremely high libido. I know that sounds like every man’s dream, but it’s not. My sex drive has never been that high, but hers is through the roof. I thought we’d even out when we had kids, and her libido did calm down for a while. But three years later, she’s wanting sex every day. It’s emasculating, and I don’t know how to deal with this. She’s okay when I say 'no,' but I worry she’ll seek sex elsewhere.

2) I’ve just gotten together with my boyfriend and we’re going to stay with my parents for the holidays. We’re in our early 20s and don’t want to go without sex for two weeks, but I also would die if my parents heard us or guessed. Any tips for quiet, undetectable sex?

3) My new girlfriend is really into what she calls 'power games.' I have never tried anything like that but am intrigued. She knows all about it and I am guessing she will take charge, but can you give me a heads up for the type of thing I might expect?

To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU

Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My partner does the same moves in the same order every single time we have sex. How do I break the routine without bruising his ego? I like what he does, but can’t be doing this for the rest of my life.

2) My boyfriend loses his erection during sex, but not when he’s having solo sex. How do we fix this without making it worse?

3) I feel guilty that my fantasies never involve my partner. Is that normal?

To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU

Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I have just found out my wife fakes her orgasms sometimes. We’ve been together for seven years. She recently asked me if we could use her vibrator during intercourse so she doesn’t need to fake it. I am shocked. I had no idea, and feel hurt and angry that she didn’t tell me this before. Sh explained that she finds it difficult to climax during intercourse, which is interesting because none of my other partners have had this issue.

2) With my consent, my boyfriend films us every single time we have sex—which is a lot. We’ve been together 18 months and his libido is still as high as it was at the start. He says he watches the videos and uses them to masturbate. Is this normal, or could it be an indication that he is a sex addict or up to no good? We’re both in our 30s.

3) I have a very average sex life. My libido is low and I’m unadventurous in bed. I have a good relationship with my mother and asked her if this was the case with her. She said it was. Does this mean you can blame your parents if you have a rubbish sex life?

To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU

Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!
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