This episode is my honest answer to a listener question (thank you, Sarah from Toronto): How did you land at the decision not to have children?I’ve always known I wanted deep love, but I never felt that same undeniable, biological, aching pull toward having children. I assumed I’d probably have them one day but it was never a soul-deep calling for me.When I met Steve who was very clear he didn’t want any more children, the question came to the front of the table. Is this something I genuinely want? Or something I think I should want? Can I be at peace with his door being closed while mine is maybe open, but not exactly active?Becoming a step-mum gave me a real, unfiltered taste of parenthood. The joy. The mess. The demands. The shifts. It didn’t make the decision for me, but it did make me reflect deeply on the life I want to live and the woman I want to be.But if I’m honest, my biggest tension wasn’t about biology or longing. It was guilt.Guilt about not giving my mum a grandchild because she would be the most loving Lola on this earth.The conversation I had with my mum softened everything. When I cleared that guilt with her, I finally felt free to choose the life that is true for me.This episode is for anyone navigating choice, pressure, timelines, guilt, or the quiet knowing in your gut that doesn’t match what the world tells you you “should” want.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearWelleCo - use code KAT15 for 15% off welleco.com.auwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
--------
35:17
--------
35:17
Kat & Steve - Scenic Sundays: faith, flow, and letting go of the plan
Steve and I share our learnings (and laughs) from Scenic Sundays - a day once a month we set aside with no agenda, no plan, and no rush. Just faith, flow, and following what feels good.Scenic Sundays have brought us some of the greatest memories and moments in our relationship. They're the kind of days that remind you what presence actually feels like: deep chats in the car, spontaneous detours, belly laughs, and finding new places we never would’ve discovered if we’d stuck to a plan.We talk about:How Scenic Sundays began and what it’s taught usLetting go of rigidity and trusting intuition to lead the wayThe balance between structure and spontaneityHow creating space for flow opens up new ideas and opportunitiesThis three year ritual we've committed to leans into our motto, 'adventure awaits'. It's probably one of my most favourite things in our relationship.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowSunday Meds - check it outWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearWelleCo - use code KAT15 for 15% off welleco.com.auwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
--------
42:09
--------
42:09
Deep down, you know
You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know.But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change.The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the very thing keeping us disconnected, tired, resentful, or restless.Isn't it about time you did something about calling yourself home to what you already know and taking the next real step toward living it? Listen to the episode if you are in need of the reminder that you, already know. Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowSunday Meds - check it outWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearWelleCo - use code KAT15 for 15% off welleco.com.auwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
--------
31:57
--------
31:57
Kat & Steve - Perimenopause both our perspective
Before I knew about perimenopause, Steve had never even heard the word either. Like a lot of men (and women), it just wasn’t on his radar until it started showing up in real time, through my body, emotions, and energy. And now, thankfully, medical professionals talking about it out loud. We talk about:What this season has looked and felt like from his perspectiveThe changes he’s noticed in me and in our relationshipHow we keep the conversation open so he knows how to best support meWhy it’s so important for couples to talk about this, even when it’s uncomfortable or unknownThis episode is for anyone who’s in or around this stage of life. You don't have to be in a relationship with someone going through it. It could be your mum, your sister, your aunt, your friend. Perimenopause doesn’t just affect the person going through it. It affects the people around us too. And when we talk about it openly, it becomes something to navigate together.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowOne day retreat - check it outWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearWelleCo - welleco.com.auwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
--------
40:28
--------
40:28
The decade of enough - reflections as I turn 40
As I approach my 40th birthday, I wanted to take a moment to honour the decade that’s brought me here, my 30s. The years of building, pushing, proving, creating, and doing the deep work to come home to myself.In the two weeks leading up to my birthday, I sat down with myself and wrote out some powerful reflection statements and journalled out the answers. A moment to say thank you for everything that’s shaped me, and to consciously step into what’s next; a decade I want to feel rooted, easeful, aligned, and full of quiet significance.This episode is for anyone standing at a threshold. A birthday, a life change, a transition, that in-between space where you can feel something new calling you forward.If you’ve ever felt the pull to stop pushing and start allowing… to stop chasing “more” and start honouring “enough,” this one’s for you.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowOne day retreat - check it outWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearWelleCo - welleco.com.auwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
G'day, I'm Kat John, Authenticity Coach, Author and Keynote Speaker. Only real talk lives here - no highlight reels. Through sharing real guidance, raw truths and relatable stories, this podcast is here to help you navigate the ongoing dance between your real and true selves, one step at a time. New episodes are released fortnightly Monday's. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it.
New Zealand