G'day, I'm Kat John, Authenticity Coach, Author and Keynote Speaker. Only real talk lives here - no highlight reels. Through sharing real guidance, raw truths a...
Authenticity isn’t about trying to be authentic. It’s not something you force or perform. It’s who you are when you’re in your most natural, relaxed state—when you’re not overthinking how you come across or questioning if you’re enough.But let’s be honest—most of us aren’t living from that place. Instead, we’re driven by a constant undercurrent of “I’m not enough as I am.” That belief creeps into everything—how we show up, what we say, what we hold back, and how much we feel we need to prove.You know what I’m talking about. It’s the laugh you force when you don’t find something funny. It’s saying yes when every part of you wants to say no. It’s staying quiet when you’ve got so much you want to say. And in those moments, a small part of you shrinks.The truth is, most of us are living out of alignment because we’re stuck in stories and patterns that make us believe we’re only worthy if we’re more—more successful, more liked, more agreeable, more perfect. And those stories? They’re exhausting.But here’s the thing: they’re not you. They’re layers of conditioning, old patterns you’ve picked up along the way. Authenticity lives underneath all of that, in the part of you that’s still there, waiting for you to drop the act and just be.In this episode, we’re getting real about what keeps us stuck, why we struggle to feel enough, and how to come back to your relaxed, real, authentic self. Because when you strip it all back, that’s who you’ve always been. Let’s uncover her together.Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USAAuthentic - The Program - We begin Feb 1stCoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show
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Kat & Steve - Fighting over (literally) nothing
In this episode, Steve and I are in a real-life scenario that could’ve turned into a full-blown issue—if we didn’t have the tools we do. And honestly? The “problem” wasn’t even real. It was one I’d made up in my head.Here’s how it went down: I was feeling off with Steve. Frustrated, withholding love, and just carrying this low-level resentment. Add in a bit of LOL - I hadn’t actually communicated my needs to him. Not once. Instead, I expected him to read my mind, know what I needed, and magically fix it. Spoiler alert: he didn’t, and I got annoyed at him for it.This is where one of our tools came into play: “Is there something we need to clear?” It’s a simple question, but it creates a space for honesty, connection, and truth. So, we used it, live on the podcast. I shared what was going on in my head, openly and vulnerably, even though it wasn’t pretty.I admitted that I’d been expecting him to guess my needs and that my frustration wasn’t about him—it was about me not expressing myself. Just saying it out loud shifted everything. The heaviness lifted, and I landed back in my heart.Steve, being the legend he is, listened without getting defensive. We talked it out, and by the end, what could’ve turned into a massive disconnect became a moment of deeper understanding.This episode is for anyone who’s ever let an unspoken expectation create tension in their relationship. We share how to use this tool to clear the air and stay connected, even when things get messy. Because the truth is, your partner isn’t a mind reader, and you can’t hold them accountable for needs you don’t express.Give it a listen—it’s a game-changer. And as always, we’d love to hear your thoughts and how this lands for you. Authentic - The Program - Final day to SAVE $300Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show
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What do you want to start, stop and keep doing this year?
Alrighty, I’m sharing three simple but powerful questions that can create real clarity and momentum in your life:What do you want to start doing?What do you want to stop doing?What do you want to keep doing?These questions are beautifully straightforward, yet the answers they bring up can be deeply insightful. They give you a chance to reflect on what’s truly working for you, what’s not, and where you want to direct your energy moving forward. Whether you’re at the start of a new year or just need a reset, these are the kinds of questions that can shift the way you move through your life.In this episode, I also talk about calling in a word or theme for the year ahead. My word for 2025 is unwavered—to continue in a strong, steady, and consistent way. It’s a far cry from how my life used to feel, swinging between extreme opposites. I was either all in, burning myself out trying to prove something, or completely out, shutting down and withdrawing because I couldn’t keep up with the chaos I created. But life isn’t lived well in the extremes. It’s in the steady, grounded space between where I’ve found real freedom. Approaching my life and the areas of it with a steadier, more intentional way has been an absolute game-changer. And that’s what unwavered means to me—showing up consistently, without needing to overdo it or collapse under the weight of it all.If you’re feeling pulled to reflect on the year ahead, or if you’re craving a way to approach life with more clarity and steadiness, this episode is for you. Tune in now and let’s start, stop, and keep moving toward the life you want to create.New year theme - Access it nowAuthentic - The Program - SAVE $300 Jan 8-10Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show
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Kat & Steve - Our end of year process
In our final episode for 2024, Steve and I sat down for what has become a cherished tradition: our annual Partner Reflections. This is a practice we hold close to our hearts because it’s about more than just looking back on the year—it’s about truly seeing each other.During this time, we reflect on what we’ve observed in the other person throughout the year. We share where we saw them grow, the challenges they faced, what we’re proud of in them, and what we hope for them in the year to come. It’s not just about acknowledgment; it’s about creating a space where we both feel deeply noticed, valued, and appreciated for who we are and who we’re becoming.This process is raw and real, and it always deepens our love and connection. There’s something incredibly powerful about hearing your partner articulate what they’ve noticed in you—not in passing, but with intentionality and care. It reminds us that we’re paying attention to each other, even in the busyness of life, and that we’re rooting for one another every step of the way.We hope sharing this inspires you to try your own version of Partner Reflections. It’s a beautiful way to close the year with gratitude and connection and set the foundation for more love, growth, and alignment in the year ahead. Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowAuthentic - The Program - Enrolments open nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show
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A welcomed abundance in 2024
In this episode, I’m sharing my theme for 2024: Plentiful. When this word came to me, it felt expansive, almost too big for the version of me who was used to letting things in just a little at a time. But I knew it was the one. Plentiful—existing in or yielding great quantities, abundant—moved through my life in ways my little ego self couldn’t predict but my soul knew what was needed. This theme cracked my heart open to what I had been rationing—love, freedom, joy, celebration, peace, pleasure. Things I’d been allowing in smaller doses, as if I didn’t deserve the fullness of them. But Plentiful asked me to stop limiting myself. It asked me to welcome and accept these things in abundance, not just when it felt safe or earned, but as my birthright.It hasn’t always been comfortable. Letting in abundance means facing the parts of yourself that resist it. But the more I leaned into this theme, the more I realised how much beauty and growth comes when you stop holding back and start saying yes to more.As you listen to this episode, I invite you to reflect: What was your theme for 2024? What are you ready to welcome into your life in greater quantities? What would it look like to fully embrace it, even when it feels bigger than what you’re used to? Let’s walk into the new year together, hearts wide open. EP Starting the year with clear intentionBuy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowAuthentic - The Program - Enrolments open nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show
G'day, I'm Kat John, Authenticity Coach, Author and Keynote Speaker. Only real talk lives here - no highlight reels. Through sharing real guidance, raw truths and relatable stories, this podcast is here to help you navigate the ongoing dance between your real and true selves, one step at a time. New episodes are released fortnightly Monday's. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it.
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