Kat & Steve - We're not good at pretending everything's 'fine'
Steve and I talk about something we both know all too well: that awkward, subtle distance that can build up in a relationship when you’re not saying what you’re really feeling.We recently found ourselves in a place of disconnection, nothing dramatic, no big argument, just a series of micro misunderstandings, missed cues, and moments where we assumed instead of asked. Steve played the, 'everything is fine' card. I kept going into the, 'ah, no it's not'. We talk about:The quiet buildup that leads to emotional distanceHow easy it is to misread or misinterpret each other when we’re not fully presentWhy the “I’m fine” act only works for so long before resentment starts to settle inAnd what it took to finally come back into honest connectionThis episode is for anyone who’s ever felt a disconnect but didn’t quite know how to name it. For anyone who’s ever gone through the motions while something unspoken sits between you. Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearWelleCo - welleco.com.auwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
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I was so busy trying to not be my mum, I missed 'seeing' here
I share a deeply personal letter to my mum, a letter I’ve been slowly writing in my heart for years, and only now have the words, the softness, and the honesty to say out loud.It’s about the part of me that believed I had to do more to be more. That my worth was measured by my output, by my ambition, by how different I could be from the women before me. And how, in trying so hard not to be like my mum, I missed just how extraordinary she truly is.This is a letter of humility and of finally seeing my mother for who she is, not just the woman who raised me, but the woman whose quiet strength, loving presence, and deeply caring nature are exactly what I once thought I had to outgrow and now deeply admire.If you’ve ever wrestled with your identity, with the stories you’ve inherited about what it means to matter or if you’re only now realising how much your mum gave, loved, and shaped you this episode will land deep.Sometimes the people we tried not to become were the exact ones we needed to learn from all along.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
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Remembering what decency looks like when travelling
After witnessing a series of moments on my recent travels left me gutted.People standing on coral. Ignoring signs that asked not to disturb nesting wildlife.Disrespecting sacred sites with noise, ego, and entitlement.This episode and letter is a call to all of us who travel to remember that we are guests. That we’re not entitled to the land, the wildlife, or the culture. That not everything needs to hold personal meaning for it to deserve our care and respect.I speak about the pain of watching people override warnings and traditions. About how easy it is to forget we’re not the only important species on this planet. And how sometimes, staying on the path literally and metaphorically is the most respectful thing we can do.This episode is a love letter to the earth, to those who hold sacred traditions, and to the animals just trying to nest, rest, and live. And it ends with the Tiaki Promise a beautiful, grounded commitment to travel with heart, care, and consideration.“To care for land, sea and nature. Treading lightly and leaving no trace. To travel safely, showing care and consideration for all. And to respect culture, travelling with an open heart and mind.”This isn’t about shaming. It’s about remembering what decency looks like.Intrepid Adventure - Karijini National Park Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
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Kat & Steve - 5 things that annoy us about each other
Steve and I lay it all out in this one, the little daily things or habits we find annoying or frustrating about each other.It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s the kind of real-life stuff that happens in every relationship but rarely gets talked about out loud. From petty habits to personality quirks, we share them openly with plenty of laughs in this one.We all know that loving someone doesn’t mean they don’t drive you up the wall sometimes. We thought we'd have some fun with this episode. Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
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To the part in you that won't let up, listen up
I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter.The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing, I must be failing.This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelled by fear, but by presence. Substance. I speak to what it’s like to walk away from the version of yourself that hustles for love, success, and validation and how confronting it can be to choose peace over performance.If you’ve ever felt like you’re only as good as what you achieve, if rest makes you feel guilty, if part of you still believes you have to earn your enoughness, this one’s for you.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show
G'day, I'm Kat John, Authenticity Coach, Author and Keynote Speaker. Only real talk lives here - no highlight reels. Through sharing real guidance, raw truths and relatable stories, this podcast is here to help you navigate the ongoing dance between your real and true selves, one step at a time. New episodes are released fortnightly Monday's. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it.
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