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• 187: Let’s Talk About Painful Sex: Vulvas and Vaginas

  This episode gets real as Melissa and Kate talk to Shannon who opens up about her personal experience with painful sex and vulvodynia and vaginismus. She shares how these challenges have shaped her live, relationships, and self-esteem, while also tackling the pressures society places on sexuality. It’s a candid, heartfelt conversation that’s all about breaking the stigma and encouraging empathy.  What We Talked About:  Real-Life Struggles: Shannon shares her journey with vulvodynia and vaginismus, including the physical pain and emotional impact.  Society’s Unrealistic Expectations: They chat about how society often sets women up with impossible expectations around sex and why it’s okay to redefine intimacy on your terms.  Getting Help: Shannon talks about her treatment journey, including using prescribed creams, considering therapy, and learning about her anatomy to take charge of her recovery.  Redefining Intimacy: A look at how sex is about so much more than just penetration and why communication and trust are key in relationships.  Let’s Get Empathetic: Melissa and Kate highlight why talking about these issues openly is so important for reducing stigma and creating a more supportive world.  Big Takeaways:  Pain During Sex Isn’t Normal: If you’re struggling, speak up and seek help.  Support is Everything: Having a supportive partner, friends, and medical team can make a huge difference.  Sex is Personal: Don’t let anyone tell you what intimacy should look like—it’s about what works for you and your partner.  You’re Not Alone: So many people deal with these issues. Let’s talk about them and support each other.  Join the Conversation:  Got a story to share? Or just want to chat about this episode? Hit us up on [email protected] We’d love to hear from you!  Resources We Mentioned:  Counselling and therapy for sexual trauma.  Pelvic floor physio options.  Online support groups and forums for those with vulvodynia or vaginismus.  Don’t Miss Out:  Want more honest chats about stuff people don’t talk about enough? Hit that subscribe button and stay tuned for more episodes that keep it real! And don’t forget to leave us review.     Connect with Us:  Websites:  https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/  http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

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• 186: Exploring the Science of Sexual Desire and Fantasies with Dr. Justin Lehmiller

  In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, we’re thrilled to welcome Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a renowned research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University and one of the leading voices in the field of human sexuality. Dr. Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life and The Psychology of Human Sexuality, shares groundbreaking insights into the fascinating world of sexual fantasies and desire.  Dr. Lehmiller discusses key findings from his research, including the results of the largest-ever survey of sexual fantasies in the United States, which reveals what Americans are fantasizing about and how these desires reflect societal shifts in attitudes toward sex and intimacy.  Topics Covered in This Episode:  Future Directions in Sexuality Research: Dr. Lehmiller highlights underexplored areas in the field and shares his vision for advancing the study of human sexuality.  Consensual Non-Monogamy: We dive into his research on CNM relationships and discuss the cultural and structural changes needed to support diverse relationship styles.  Cultural and Demographic Variations: Learn how factors like age, sexual orientation, and cultural norms shape the nature and prevalence of sexual fantasies.  Research Inspiration: Dr. Lehmiller shares what sparked his passion for studying human sexuality and how his role at the Kinsey Institute has influenced his work.  Sexual Fantasy Trends: Discover the societal and psychological insights behind the most common sexual fantasies, and how open communication about desires can strengthen relationships.  As the host of the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast, and a guest expert featured on platforms like Netflix’s Sex, Explained, Dr. Lehmiller brings a wealth of knowledge, humor, and empathy to this thought-provoking conversation.  Tune in to uncover the science behind sexual desire and learn how to navigate your fantasies with greater confidence and understanding.  Links and Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s Blog and Podcast: Sex and Psychology   Connect with Us:  Don’t forget to subscribe to The Penis Project Podcast and leave a review! Share this episode with someone who could benefit from fantasy, doesn’t everyone?  Websites:  https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/  http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA   

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• 185: From Fizzle to Sizzle: Rekindling Passion and Navigating Mismatched Desires in Long-Term Relationships

  In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome Dr. Nazanin licensed clinical psychologist specializing in addictions, eating disorders, sexual health, and mental wellness. She is also the host of the renowned Sexology podcast, which boasts over 400 episodes exploring various facets of intimacy and relationships.  Together, we delve into one of the most common challenges faced in long-term relationships: reigniting passion and navigating mismatched desires. We discuss how to move from “roommates” to romantic partners, explore reasons behind dwindling attraction, and offer actionable advice for reconnecting with your partner on an intimate level.  Key Topics Covered:  Defining Sexless Relationships: What constitutes a sexless marriage, and why it might not always mean what you think.  Causes of Diminished Desire: Life stressors, parenting, unresolved relational issues, and how these factors impact intimacy.  Shame and Guilt Around Desire: Addressing guilt, especially in the context of illness or changing life stages and rediscovering the joy of pleasure.  Rekindling Connection: Tips for reigniting the spark, such as reflecting on past intimacy, introducing novelty, and creating space for open conversations about desires and fantasies.  Practical Tools and Strategies:  The Sexy Happy Hour technique: A light-hearted way to explore fantasies, give feedback, and reignite passion.  Incorporating romance: Holding hands, going on dates, and reminiscing about exciting moments from the early days of your relationship.  Using games or prompts to foster communication and curiosity about intimacy.  Memorable Quotes:  “Predictability leads us to lose attraction. Introducing novelty and curiosity can reignite that spark.”  “When we’re turned into roommates instead of romantic partners, it’s time to intentionally prioritize connection and intimacy.”  Actionable Takeaways:  Start small: Plan a romantic date or set aside time for a Sexy Happy Hour.  Reflect on your core erotic emotions: What experiences excite and connect you?  Open the conversation: Talk about desires and fantasies in a non-judgmental and curious way.  Resources Mentioned:  Sexology Podcast   Relationship and intimacy games for couples  Subscribe & Review:  If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review! Your feedback helps us bring you more insightful and inspiring content.    This episode is packed with practical advice and inspiration for anyone looking to reignite intimacy and connection in their relationships. Tune in now to discover how to turn the fizzle back into sizzle!    https://sexologypodcast.com/,   IG: @sexologypodcast  https://oasis2care.com/    Program page “Bedroom Fizzle to Sizzle”  https://sexologypodcast.com/enroll/  ----------  Websites:  https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/  http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

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• 184: Prostate cancer and testosterone levels – a lived experience.

  In this episode, Melissa and Shane dive deep into health topics encountered by Shane, including  personal experiences with prostate cancer, low testosterone, and hormone replacement therapy. They cover:  Health Management and Responsibility  The significance of individual responsibility in monitoring and managing personal health.  Exploring the role of hormone levels in cell regeneration and cancer development, with Melissa sharing a study on how low testosterone might increase the risk of high-grade prostate cancer.    Testosterone Replacement Therapy  Benefits and challenges of testosterone replacement therapy for mood, energy, and overall well-being.  Shane shares his journey with prostate cancer, from diagnosis to treatment, and how low testosterone influenced his health management.  A discussion on therapy options, dosage adjustments, and the importance of regular monitoring for optimal health outcomes.    Practical Health Tools  Shane and Melissa discuss the W-912 massage pen for nerve stimulation, used to improve recovery post-surgery and general nerve health. [Link included below] *note this is Shane’s experience and not a professional endorsement by Melissa  Tune in to hear Shane’s unique insights on his hormone health, his journey through cancer recovery, and taking charge of personal health through informed decisions and proactive measures.    Further reading:   ----------  Websites:  https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/  http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA     

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• 183: A gay man’s journey through prostate cancer.

  In this episode, Melissa welcomes Richard, a 71-year-old gay man, who shares his journey through prostate cancer diagnosis, treatment, and recovery, offering an honest look into the physical, emotional, and relational changes that come with it from the perspective of a gay man.    Key topics include:  Prostate Cancer Diagnosis and Treatment  Richard’s decision to opt for robotic prostate surgery over radiotherapy and the recovery process that followed.  Reflections on his initial fears, including concerns about anesthesia, biopsy discomfort, and his catheter experience during recovery.  Sexual Rehabilitation and Erectile Health  Richard discusses using a penis pump and pelvic floor exercises to prevent penis atrophy post-surgery, offering insights into the challenges and humor he’s found in the process.  Melissa provides recommendations on pump use, hair trimming for comfort, and ways to maintain sexual health as part of recovery.  Intimacy and Relationship Adjustments  Changes in Richard's intimate life with his partner, how they’ve adapted their relationship post-surgery, and exploring different forms of intimacy as they age.  Open discussions on same-sex relationships and how prostate cancer impacts sexual health and partnership dynamics.  Personal Reflections and Family Relationships  Richard shares his late-in-life coming out journey, the importance of family connections, and maintaining positive relationships with loved ones, including his ex-wife and daughters.  A heartfelt discussion on cherishing relationships and the importance of support systems through health challenges.  Next Steps and Health Management  Richard’s ongoing regimen: daily use of the penis pump, pelvic floor exercises, upcoming PSA test follow-up, and transitioning from incontinence underwear as his continence improves.  Listen to Richard’s candid account of resilience, adaptation, and love as he navigates life post-prostate cancer. ----------  Websites:  https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/  http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA       

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