The Burnt Toast Podcast

You're listening to Burnt Toast! I'm Virginia Sole-Smith. Today Corinne Fay is in conversation with Lasara Firefox Allen.

Lasara (they/them/Mx.) is a trans and genderqueer author, educator, menopause doula and coach, and the Founder and CEO of Genderqueer Futures, LLC. Lasara is the author of Genderqueer Menopause (North Atlantic Books, 2026) and Magickal Menopause (Llewellyn, forthcoming), and the creator of the Gender-Affirming Menopause Care Certification Course, which trains healthcare providers and allied professionals in inclusive, affirming, dysphoria-aware menopause care. Their work integrates clinical education, lived experience, somatic practice, and social justice frameworks to support gender-expansive people through hormonal transitions. Lasara speaks nationally at conferences including GLMA, UCSF Transgender Health Summit, and Creating Change, and is a leading voice in the emerging field of gender-affirming menopause care.

Lasara joined Corinne to chat about their new book Genderqueer Menopause: Navigating Menopause for Trans, Gender-Nonconforming, Genderfluid, and Other Queer-Bodied Folx, thinking about hormones outside of the binary, the difference between performing and living sexual desire, plus self-advocacy in medical settings and so much more.

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FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges, and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Kim, Corinne and I will be chatting a little bit more about midlife and perimenopause in our own lives. Don't miss out — join us here!

Indulgence Gospel segments get recorded too close to drop day to have transcripts — but you can find an AI-generated transcript if you’re following us on Apple or Spotify! If you're listening, Indulgence Gospel starts at the timestamp 38:21.

BUTTER & LINKS

Corinne's Butter: Hacks

Lasara's Butter: Romance audiobooks

QueerMenopause.com by Tania Glyde

Ari Cohen's Advanced Style

Planet Sex With Cara Delevingne

When Katie Met Cassidy

The Christmas Notch book series

Menopause Cabaret

You'll want to read Genderqueer Menopause after hearing this conversation. If you order it from my local independent bookstore, Split Rock Books, you can take 10% off if you have also ordered a copy of my book Fat Talk from them. Go to Split Rock Books and use the code "FATTALK" at checkout.

https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/posts/hormones-have-no-163064835

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You're listening to Burnt Toast! We are Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay, and today we're talking about Nabela Noor.

Nabela is a beauty/lifestyle influencer with 2.8 million followers on Instagram. She also has a new show on Tubi called Hosted by Nabela Noor.

In this episode we're asking:

⭐️ How does Nabela's recent IWL journey square with her body positivity message?

⭐️ Isn't a warm smoothie just soup?

⭐️ Why is her husband so bad on camera?

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Housekeeping note: We've changed things up a bit to solve some behind-the-scenes tech issues, so here's how to get your Burnt Toast fix:

FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are going to talk about Yesteryear, the NYT bestselling debut by Caro Claire Burke. It's a book about a time-traveling trad wife, and it's causing quite a stir online. We'll also talk about what we're reading. We will be getting into it. Don't miss out — join us here!

Indulgence Gospel segments get recorded too close to drop day to have transcripts — but you can find an AI-generated transcript if you’re following us on Apple or Spotify! If you're listening, Indulgence Gospel starts at the timestamp 29:23.

BUTTER & LINKS

Virginia's Butter: Needle felting! Extra Large Needle Felting Starter Kit, Cactus Felting Kit and Blue Kitty with Ice Cream Needle Felting Kit.

Corinne's Butter: Widow's Bay on Apple TV

Houses Get Bigger, Women Get Smaller

People Magazine: Nabela Noor Reveals How She Feels About Being Labeled the ‘Brown Martha Stewart’

Beautifully Me by Nabela Noor

Nabela's speech at the 2024 Democratic National Convention

New York Times: Home Is Where the Clicks Are

https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/posts/we-are-not-warm-162427290

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You're listening to Burnt Toast! We are Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay, and today our conversation is with Julia Turshen.

Julia is a New York Times bestselling cookbook author. She writes a twice-weekly newsletter, teaches online cooking classes, farms part-time at Long Season Farm, and is a competitive powerlifter. The Washington Post called her latest cookbook, What Goes with What, “absolutely genius.” Julia lives in the Hudson Valley with her spouse Grace and their many pets. Her debut romance novel, Down to Earth, is out now.

Corinne and I are both here because Julia is one of our very favorite Burnt Toast guests. This is her third visit to the pod. Julia joined us to chat about her debut queer romance novel, Down to Earth, how writing recipes helped her write sex scenes, plus the magic of power washing and so much more.

FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges, and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are chatting about what we're reading and why Corinne maybe secretly doesn't like romance novels, except of course for Julia's. Don't miss out — join us here!

Indulgence Gospel segments get recorded too close to drop day to have transcripts — but you can find an AI-generated transcript if you’re following us on Apple or Spotify! If you're listening, Indulgence Gospel starts at the timestamp 35:50.

BUTTER & LINKS

Julia's Butters: 1) pregnancy bike shorts for playing tennis; 2) signing up for a class with someone you want to spend more time with; and 3) renting tools, especially power washers.

Virginia's Butter: power washing

Corinne's Butter: Big Bud Press Drop Pocket Cargo Pants

Virginia's Samson Handwoven Indoor/Outdoor Rug

Down to Earth cabbage candle and "Small Town Romance" hat from 831 Stories

A list of Julia's favorite tomato sandwiches

You'll want to read Down to Earth after hearing this conversation. If you order it from my local independent bookstore, Split Rock Books, you can take 10% off if you have also ordered a copy of my book Fat Talk from them. Go to Split Rock Books and use the code "FATTALK" at checkout.

https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/posts/hot-farmer-161775275

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You're listening to Burnt Toast! We are Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay, and today we're talking about women's shoes.

This is a topic you have all been asking for, and today we're going to answer the question: Are women's shoes are a diet?

We're getting into:

⭐️ Virginia's fraught history with high heels;

⭐️ The lie that high heels are comfortable;

⭐️ It's fatphobic for brands to keep making their shoes narrower.

Housekeeping note: We've changed things up a bit to solve some behind-the-scenes tech issues, so here's how to get your Burnt Toast fix:

FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are going to talk about the new Lena Dunham memoir Famesick, plus our love for Girls, being a public fat person, chronic illness, et cetera. We will be getting into it. Don't miss out — join us here!

BUTTER & LINKS

Virginia's Butter: Albion Fit pants

Corinne's Butter: Tarot for the Wild Soul and Soul Tarot by Lindsay Mack (See also: Lindsay Mack on Big Undies)

Em Seely-Katz on Substack: "Can Barefoot Shoes be Stylish? (Part 1: The Contenders)"

Famesick: A Memoir by Lena Dunham (See also: Lena Dunham on Big Undies!)

Welnove Silicone Toe Separator Spacers

Birkenstock Gizeh Big Buckle

Birkenstock Boston clogs

Adidas Sambae Shoes

Adidas VL Court Bold Shoes

Veja Esplar Sneaker

New Balance 237 Sneaker

Nisolo Carmen Chelsea Boot 2.0

Charlotte Stone Raleigh

ADIDAS SAMBA OG BLACK

Merrell Moab 3 Hiking Shoes

Keen Men's Jasper Zionic Sneaker

Keen Women's Jasper KM Lite Mary Jane

Dr. Martins Madaline Mary Jane Rub Off Leather Sling Back Shoes

Adidas SAMBA JANE SHOES

https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/posts/are-womens-shoes-161156993

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You are listening to Burnt Toast. I'm Virginia Sole-Smith. Today my conversation is with Hayley DeRoche.

Hayley is a humorist, poet, and the creator of the viral “Sad Beige” TikTok series. Her work has been covered by the BBC, Washington Post, New York Times, and more. She lives with her family near Richmond, Virginia, where she is also a public librarian.

Hayley joined me to chat about her new book Dress Your Baby in Sage and Taupe, the origin story of "Sad Beige," perfectionism and performative parenting, plus the beauty and power of mom groups and so much more.

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FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges, and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are chatting about performative parenting and getting into celebrity mom Jenny Mollen's recent controversial boy mom essay. Don't miss out — join us here!

BUTTER & LINKS

Hayley's Butter: The Baby-Sitters Club Club podcast.

Virginia's Butter: Your kids making slime at home, but with very specific rules (aka slime laws, aka s'laws) about where and what they can put their hands on. Here's our basic recipe and here's everything we're using in our slime station.

Indulgence Gospel: That Jenny Mollen essay and her Instagram. (She also published this follow-up piece after we recorded.) Paid subscribers, we know a lot of you just read transcripts—don't forget to listen to the audio of this episode for our discussion! It's spicy!

You'll want to read Dress Your Baby in Sage and Taupe after hearing this conversation. If you order it from my local independent bookstore, Split Rock Books, you can take 10% off if you have also ordered a copy of my book Fat Talk from them. Go to Split Rock Books and use the code "FATTALK" at checkout.

Now, here's Haley!

https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/posts/good-moms-dont-160536368/

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!