The Burnt Toast Podcast

You're listening to Burnt Toast! We are Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay, and today we're talking about women's shoes.

This is a topic you have all been asking for, and today we're going to answer the question: Are women's shoes are a diet?

We're getting into:

⭐️ Virginia's fraught history with high heels;

⭐️ The lie that high heels are comfortable;

⭐️ It's fatphobic for brands to keep making their shoes narrower.

Housekeeping note: We've changed things up a bit to solve some behind-the-scenes tech issues, so here's how to get your Burnt Toast fix:

FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are going to talk about the new Lena Dunham memoir Famesick, plus our love for Girls, being a public fat person, chronic illness, et cetera. We will be getting into it. Don't miss out — join us here!

BUTTER & LINKS

Virginia's Butter: Albion Fit pants

Corinne's Butter: Tarot for the Wild Soul and Soul Tarot by Lindsay Mack (See also: Lindsay Mack on Big Undies)

Em Seely-Katz on Substack: "Can Barefoot Shoes be Stylish? (Part 1: The Contenders)"

Famesick: A Memoir by Lena Dunham (See also: Lena Dunham on Big Undies!)

Welnove Silicone Toe Separator Spacers

Birkenstock Gizeh Big Buckle

Birkenstock Boston clogs

Adidas Sambae Shoes

Adidas VL Court Bold Shoes

Veja Esplar Sneaker

New Balance 237 Sneaker

Nisolo Carmen Chelsea Boot 2.0

Charlotte Stone Raleigh

ADIDAS SAMBA OG BLACK

Merrell Moab 3 Hiking Shoes

Keen Men's Jasper Zionic Sneaker

Keen Women's Jasper KM Lite Mary Jane

Dr. Martins Madaline Mary Jane Rub Off Leather Sling Back Shoes

Adidas SAMBA JANE SHOES

https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/posts/are-womens-shoes-161156993

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You are listening to Burnt Toast. I'm Virginia Sole-Smith. Today my conversation is with Hayley DeRoche.

Hayley is a humorist, poet, and the creator of the viral “Sad Beige” TikTok series. Her work has been covered by the BBC, Washington Post, New York Times, and more. She lives with her family near Richmond, Virginia, where she is also a public librarian.

Hayley joined me to chat about her new book Dress Your Baby in Sage and Taupe, the origin story of "Sad Beige," perfectionism and performative parenting, plus the beauty and power of mom groups and so much more.

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FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges, and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are chatting about performative parenting and getting into celebrity mom Jenny Mollen's recent controversial boy mom essay. Don't miss out — join us here!

BUTTER & LINKS

Hayley's Butter: The Baby-Sitters Club Club podcast.

Virginia's Butter: Your kids making slime at home, but with very specific rules (aka slime laws, aka s'laws) about where and what they can put their hands on. Here's our basic recipe and here's everything we're using in our slime station.

Indulgence Gospel: That Jenny Mollen essay and her Instagram. (She also published this follow-up piece after we recorded.) Paid subscribers, we know a lot of you just read transcripts—don't forget to listen to the audio of this episode for our discussion! It's spicy!

You'll want to read Dress Your Baby in Sage and Taupe after hearing this conversation. If you order it from my local independent bookstore, Split Rock Books, you can take 10% off if you have also ordered a copy of my book Fat Talk from them. Go to Split Rock Books and use the code "FATTALK" at checkout.

Now, here's Haley!

https://www.patreon.com/virginiasolesmith/posts/good-moms-dont-160536368/

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You're listening to Burnt Toast! We are Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay, and today we're talking about ableism and GLP-1s.

Lately, the cultural conversation around GLP-1s has started to get weird. We've noticed how little the conversations around these medications center, or even consider, people who are taking these medications for actual illnesses. It's starting to feel ableist.

We're getting into:

⭐️ How mainstream media centers people like Clavicular, celebrities, or thin rich people taking GLP-1s.

⭐️ Why are people taking GLP-1s for diabetes not being included in the conversation?

⭐️ How often cultural discourse about bodies, even illness, medicine, people's experiences of their bodies almost never reflects the experience of people who are actually ill.

⭐️ And Corinne opens up about their own GLP-1 experience, which you can read in even more detail here on Big Undies.

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Housekeeping note: We've changed things up a bit to solve some behind-the-scenes tech issues, so here's how to get your Burnt Toast fix:

FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are chatting about The Devil Wears Prada 2. Did they fix the fatphobia? Does it make me miss working in fashion magazines? Were editors-in-chief really that bananas? We will be getting into it. Don't miss out — join us here!

BUTTER & LINKS

Virginia's Butter: this neck massager

Corinne's Butter: these Old Navy pants

Virgie Tovar’s GLP-1 Burnout Support Group

The Cut: Losing My Friend Over Wegovy She hid her semaglutide use, knowing that I would spiral. She was right; we haven’t spoken since. By Sophia Ortega

Search Engine (podcast): What we got wrong about GLP-1s

Weight and Healthcare: Semaglutide 7.2mg - The Ever-Expanding Dose Part 1. By Ragen Chastain

NYT: We’re at the Dawn of the Ozempic Era — and It’s Really Weird. By Ezra Klein

NYT: We’ve Missed the Point on GLP-1s for Children. By Julia Belluz

Intelligencer: The Moral Panic Over Ozempic Misses the Point The media has made the drugs about body politics and our obsession with thinness. That’s the wrong story. By Rachael Bedard

https://www.patreon.com/posts/what-were-wrong-159854489

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You are listening to Burnt Toast. I'm Virginia Sole-Smith. Today my conversation is with Tracy Clark-Flory.

Tracy  is a journalist, essayist, and author of the new memoir My Mother's Daughter: Finding Myself in My Family's Fractured Past, which Kirkus calls "powerful," "deeply researched," "lyrically written," "trenchant," and "moving." She's also the author of Want Me: A Sex Writer’s Journey into the Heart of Desire, an NPR Best Book of the year. Tracy writes a weekly newsletter and co-hosts Dire Straights, a feminist podcast critiquing hetero love, sex, politics and culture. You can find more at tracyclarkflory.com.

Tracy joined me to chat about her new memoir My Mother’s Daughter, stigma around unwed motherhood, stigma and shame around women who like sex and how so often daughters don’t know their mothers’ lives, especially the parts having to do with love and sex.

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Housekeeping note: We've changed things up a bit to solve some behind-the-scenes tech issues, so here's how to get your Burnt Toast fix:

FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen right here on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.*

*Except Spotify: Paid episodes aren't syncing there right now, but we're working on it.

Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. This week Corinne and I are chatting about my laser hair removal journey. Don't miss out — join us here!

BUTTER & LINKS

Tracy's Butter: Sexual Pleasure for Dummies by Myisha Battle

Virginia's Butter: "Just hanging out with your friends and watching a really good movie you can all really discuss." (We watched Babygirl!)

One last thing! You will want to read My Mother’s Daughter after hearing this conversation. If you order it from my local independent bookstore, Split Rock Books, you can take 10% off if you have also ordered a copy of my book Fat Talk from them. Go to Split Rock Books and use the code "fat talk" at checkout.

Now here's Tracy.

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!

You're listening to Burnt Toast! We are Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay, and today we're talking about DINNER!

⭐️ What we feel guilty about—and why dinner brings up such Big Feelings.

⭐️ Takeout and delivery. How often is too often? Virginia is asking for a friend.

⭐️ What we've been cooking and eating lately, including favorite recent recipes!

Housekeeping note: We've changed things up a bit to solve some behind-the-scenes tech issues, so here's how to get your Burnt Toast fix:

🎧FREE LISTENERS can find this episode on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or the podcast player of your choice.

🎧 PAID SUBSCRIBERS can listen on Patreon, or add your member-only feed to the podcast player of your choice.

⭐️Paid subscribers also get transcripts, commenting privileges, and our bonus (audio only!) Indulgence Gospel segment. ⭐️

This week we're answering a listener question about what to do when your partner loses weight on a GLP-1 but leaves you with the mental load of explaining weight loss to your kids and family. 

 

Don't miss out — join us here!

BUTTER & LINKS

Why I Had to Kill Family Dinner

Book Dinner

Is Giving Up Your Furniture a Diet?

The Couples Fighting Over Food Delivery Costs

The Yummy Toddler Food cookbook

 Julia Turshen's pickle dressing salad

Corinne's favorite Korean meatball recipe.

 taco salad

taverna salad

sticky miso salmon bowl

Corinne's Butter: a quilt pattern — and the finished quilt!!

Virginia's Butter: Joining a gym (sort of)

 

EPISODE CREDITS
Co-hosts: Virginia Sole-Smith and Corinne Fay.
Producer: Kim Baldwin.
Logo design: Deanna Lowe.
Theme Song: Farideh.
Video Editor: Elizabeth Ayiku
Audio Engineer: Tommy Harron
Follow us on social!
Virginia is on Instagram and Threads as @v_solesmith and on Bluesky at @virginiasolesmith.
Corinne is on Instagram at @selfiefay, on Bluesky at @corinnefay and on Patreon at Big Undies.
Support the Me Little Me Foundation, a virtual food pantry supporting multiply marginalized folks recovering from eating disorders.
Thanks for listening and supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism!