Anx. Attch. in Friendships: People-Pleasing, and the Fear of Being Replaced
We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship?If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you.In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jealousy, and the pain of feeling replaceable. We also look at deeper patterns—like recreating dynamics with your mother or sister, using male friendships as emotional placeholders, and disappearing from your friends when a new love interest enters the picture.Go beyond understanding your patterns and actually start healing them at the root, come join us inside my membership, Becoming Secure. You’ll get nervous system-based tools, somatic practices, and community support to help you feel safe, grounded, and secure in love and life.⏱️ TimestampsNote: These are approximate and meant to help listeners follow the flow.00:00 – Intro & why this topic matters02:15 – What anxious attachment in friendship actually looks like05:50 – How to tell if you're over-functioning or emotionally over-relying on a friend09:30 – The mother/sister dynamic in female friendships13:20 – Male friendships as placeholders for father wounds16:45 – The quiet pattern of abandoning your friends for romance20:30 – Self-reflection and starting to shift these patterns23:00 – Invitation to go deeper inside Becoming SecureMentioned in this episode:30% Off Your Subscription to the Becoming Secure Communityhttps://elevatewithjo.my.canva.site/skool-about-page-becoming-secure
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Healing the Guilt That Keeps You Small
If you’ve ever felt guilty for having needs, setting boundaries, or taking up space—this episode is for you.We’re unpacking the kind of guilt that doesn’t come from doing something wrong, but from trying to stay safe.For those of us with anxious attachment, guilt can feel like a constant hum in the background—shaping our choices, silencing our truth, and keeping us small.In this episode, I’m diving into:The difference between true guilt, false guilt, and shameHow guilt shows up in anxious attachmentHow to heal unhelpful guilt responses on a nervous system levelWhat it really looks like to forgive yourself and move forwardAlso mentioned: The Becoming Secure MembershipHang on Instagram:@johhhannamariaMentioned in this episode:30% Off Your Subscription to the Becoming Secure Communityhttps://elevatewithjo.my.canva.site/skool-about-page-becoming-secure
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How to Find Yourself Again After a Breakup
After a breakup, it’s easy to feel lost—like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends.We’ll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I’ll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your truth.Connect with me on Instagram @johhhannamaria. Please send me a DM letting me know that you're coming from the podcast! 🧡Mentioned in this episode:30% Off Your Subscription to the Becoming Secure Communityhttps://elevatewithjo.my.canva.site/skool-about-page-becoming-secure
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Moving Through a Breakup - the weight of grief, the power of emotional release, and how to stay anchored.
Breakups are hard, but if you have an anxious attachment style, they can feel almost unbearable. In this episode, I’m diving into why breakups hit so hard for AA women, the weight of fresh grief, and how to move through it with clarity and self-honoring choices.We’ll talk about the power emotional release, the importance of clear boundaries (especially when no contact might be the best option), and how to stay anchored in your truth—even when it feels impossible._____As always you're invited to join me in the Becoming Secure Membership for guided somatic practices, journal prompts, healing exercises, and live calls. Move with a group of other women towards your most secure self. 🧡 Click here for more info. Mentioned in this episode:30% Off Your Subscription to the Becoming Secure Communityhttps://elevatewithjo.my.canva.site/skool-about-page-becoming-secure
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Releasing the Grip of Anxious Attachment
It can feel like anxious attachment runs you. Doubt, fear of relationship ending, and low confidence are symptoms of something deeper that your body wants to release and heal. _____Becoming Secure Membership 🎆Join in March as we focus on Body Wisdom. You'll also get access to the 30 Day Inner Path and live calls with Johanna. Learn more here. Mentioned in this episode:30% Off Your Subscription to the Becoming Secure Communityhttps://elevatewithjo.my.canva.site/skool-about-page-becoming-secure
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