Ladies, We Need To Talk

The uterus is central to womanhood: it's the baby house, and allows for menstruation. So, what's it like to have it removed?
Each year around 30,000 Australian women have a hysterectomy — to relieve pain, to treat cancer, or as part of gender affirming care.
The path to surgery isn't always straightforward or quick. It can involve years of heartache, confusion and BS from specialists. But for most women, a hysterectomy is a game changer, bringing lasting relief and restoring quality of life.
Yumi Stynes speaks to women who've a had hysterectomy and finds out what led to their decision and what life is like on the other side.
Plus, gynaecologist and endometriosis specialist Dr Pav Nanayakkara explains the reasons we might need to get a hysterectomy, how to navigate the side effects of having your reproductive organs removed and whether we can still achieve the big O post-surgery.
Helpful resources:
Ausralian Endometrosis Foundation
Jean Hailes Foundation
 This episode will answer questions like:
What is a hysterectomy?
Why do people get a hysterectomy?
What are the different types of hysterectomy?
What happens after a hysterectomy?
Do I need my uterus?
Will a hysterectomy cure my adenomyosis pain?
Will a hysterectomy cure my endometriosis?
Did Lena Dunham get a hysterectomy?
What to listen to next:
"Where the hell is my husband?" Women who've never had a partner — ABC listen
Will we ever have a cure for endometriosis? — ABC listen
The new way to date — ABC listen
Family Feuds: Is estrangement the new normal? — ABC listen
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery — ABC News
Why these women have never had a partner — ABC News
This episode contains references to hysterectomies, hysterectomy, uterus, medical misogyny, surgery, ovaries, gender affirming care, relationships, orgasms.

Ever been called too clingy? Or felt overwhelmed by your partner's needs? Blame your attachment style!
Attachment theory is a cornerstone of modern psychology; chances are you've read about it in Attached or spent hours spiralling on TikTok as you tried to identify your attachment style and what it means for your relationship.
The theory breaks our attachment styles into three main categories: anxious, avoidant and secure and suggests that the way we're raised shapes how we show up in relationships.
We might hold on too tight, we might shut down and reject our partners, or if we're lucky, we might embrace open honest communication and feel secure.
Yumi Stynes is joined by Clinical Neuropsychologist Dr Hannah Korrel to unpack your questions on love, relationships and conflict.
Further information:
Dr Hannah Korrel is a Neuropsychologist who runs the Sydney Neuropsych clinic.
Her book How to break up with friends is publish by Impact Press.
This episode will answer questions like:
What is attachment theory?
What are the different attachment styles?
How do attachment styles affect relationships?
What is my attachment style?
Can attachment styles change over time?
What to listen to next:
Relationship resuscitation — coming back from the brink — ABC listen
The new way to date — ABC listen
"Where the hell is my husband?" Women who've never had a partner — ABC listen
Family Feuds: Is estrangement the new normal? — ABC listen
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner
The women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressure
This episode contains references to attachment, attachment theory, attachment styles, family, relationships, arguments, conflict, avoidance, anxiety, security, attached, dating, parenting, love

The Beckhams know about it. Hilary Duff's been through it. Harry and Meghan could write a handbook. Family estrangement is brutal, but when there's a rift, can it be repaired?
Beyond the celebrity headlines, the "no contact" movement has been gaining traction online as children cut themselves off from their parents, parents find themselves out in the cold and rigid boundaries strain what's left of family bonds.
In this episode, Yumi Stynes talks to women who've been through the pain of family estrangement. She finds out what led to the rift and how letting go can be a form of healing.
You'll also hear from clinical psychologist Dr Kayla Steele with tips on navigating family break ups – from learning how to move on or figuring out how to mend a broken relationship.
This episode will answer questions like:
Why does estrangement happen?
What should I do if I've been cut off?
Is it ok to go "no contact" with a family member?
How can I talk to a family member who's estranged?
How can I move forward?
What to listen to next:
Where's my village? Esther Perel on how to build community
Emotional labour with Rose Hackman — ABC listen
Embracing imperfection was the key to Astrid's success — ABC listen
The price of perfectionism — ABC listen
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went — ABC News
What loving someone with an addiction or dependence can look like
The dark side of being a perfectionist
This episode contains references to estrangement, grief, dishonesty, loss, illness, family, depression, anxiety, relationships, arguments, confrontation, isolation, alienation

Comedian Felicity Ward started having the best sex of her life after the worst time in her life. 
After years of fertility struggles, Felicity finally fell pregnant at 38. But being a mum to a newborn wasn't the Instagram highlight reel she'd imagined. Felicity wrestled with perinatal depression, zero sleep and a loss of identity…and then she became a single mum.
At 40, Felicity was dating again but her expectations were low. She reluctantly joined the apps and started swiping…and what was on the other side amazed her. Felicity found a babysitter for her toddler and sexual liberation for herself.
Yumi Stynes sits down with the professional funny woman, dancing with the stars contestant and star of The Office for a deeply personal chat about starting over, rediscovering confidence and how the best sex of your life may yet be ahead of you.
If you need help:
Lifeline Australia 13 11 14
PANDA National Helpline 1300 726 306
Gidget Foundation 1300 851 758
This episode will answer questions like:
What does it feel like to have perinatal depression and anxiety?
Is it ok to be tired after having a baby?
Can I ask for help after having a baby?
How to have good sex in your 40s
What should I ask new mums?
What are the treatments for perinatal depression?
What to listen to next: 
Great sex: What we wish men knew — ABC listen
Queers are meant to have kids — ABC listen
Body image and babies with Turia Pitt and Sophie Walker
Where's my village? Esther Perel on how to build community
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next: 
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery
Why genital herpes does not mean the end of your sex life
This episode contains references to peri natal depression, divorce, pregnancy, child birth, sex, dating apps, newborns, motherhood

Comedian Felicity Ward started having the best sex of her life after the worst time in her life.
After years of fertility struggles, Felicity finally fell pregnant at 38. But being a mum to a newborn wasn't the Instagram highlight reel she'd imagined. Felicity wrestled with perinatal depression, zero sleep and a loss of identity…and then she became a single mum.
At 40, Felicity was dating again but her expectations were low. She reluctantly joined the apps and started swiping…and what was on the other side amazed her. Felicity found a babysitter for her toddler and sexual liberation for herself.
Yumi Stynes sits down with the professional funny woman, dancing with the stars contestant and star of The Office for a deeply personal chat about starting over, rediscovering confidence and how the best sex of your life may yet be ahead of you.
The Sydney Comedy Festival runs from Monday April 13 — Sunday May 17 where Felicity Ward is performing I wish I could come out of my shell on April 25
If you need help:
Lifeline Australia 13 11 14
PANDA National Helpline 1300 726 306
Gidget Foundation 1300 851 758
This episode will answer questions like:
What does it feel like to have perinatal depression and anxiety?
Is it ok to be tired after having a baby?
Can I ask for help after having a baby?
How to have good sex in your 40s
What should I ask new mums?
What are the treatments for perinatal depression?
What to listen to next:
Great sex: What we wish men knew — ABC listen
Queers are meant to have kids — ABC listen
Body image and babies with Turia Pitt and Sophie Walker
Where's my village? Esther Perel on how to build community
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.
What to read next:
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery
Why genital herpes does not mean the end of your sex life
This episode contains references to perinatal depression, divorce, pregnancy, child birth, sex, dating apps, newborns, motherhood, comedy, comedians