How To Know When To Call It Quits In A Relationship
In this episode, the hosts unpack the complicated process of knowing when it's time to leave a relationship, highlighting the emotional risks, attachment patterns, and fears of regret that often make the decision so difficult.
They emphasize that while love and good qualities may exist, non-negotiable differences, broken trust, or persistent disconnection can signal it's time to move on. The episode encourages self-trust, gathering support, experimenting with boundaries, and, when needed, seeking professional help like couples therapy or intensives for greater clarity.
We cover topics such as:
Why It Feels Hard To Leave
Signals It’s Time To Leave
Importance of Gathering Input
Professional Support & Intensives
And more!
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How to Know When To Take A Break in Conflict
In this episode, the hosts illustrate how noticing when you need a break during conflict is essential for maintaining emotional regulation and protecting connection. They highlight how pushing through conflict without pausing can lead to emotional collapse or blow-ups, and how a break should be intentional, involving both calming the body and organizing thoughts before reengaging. The episode emphasizes that reframing breaks not as avoidance but as tools for better communication can help couples build trust and deeper understanding.
We cover topics such as:
Recognizing Dysregulation
Breaks vs Avoidance
Organizing During Breaks
Fear of Not Returning
Reengaging Vulnerability
And more!
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50:12
How To Handle Different Paces In Emotional Growth
When emotional growth happens at different paces in a relationship, it can create disconnection and frustration. This episode explores how partners can navigate this dynamic by cultivating curiosity, avoiding shame-based interpretations, and validating the complexity of individual growth paths. Rather than rushing to conclusions or trying to control the other, the hosts encourage compassion, open dialogue, and creative ways to reconnect.
In this episode, we cover topics such as:
Avoiding Righteousness
Pause the Binary Thinking
Asking Open-Ended Questions
Exploring Other Support Systems
Discernment and Clarity
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49:37
Why Do My Partner And I Have Different Sex Drives
Explore the common relational challenge of mismatched sex drives in partnerships, emphasizing that differences in sexual desire are normal and often rooted in individual biology, life stage, or emotional dynamics. Rather than seeking a “right” or “normal” amount of sex, the hosts encourage couples to approach the topic with curiosity, vulnerability, and a willingness to understand one another’s needs. The conversation also challenges common gender-based assumptions about sex and introduces the idea of sexual pursuit and withdrawal patterns as part of a couple’s dynamic.
In this episode, we talk about topics such as:
Mismatched Sex Drives Are Normal
Sexual Pursuer vs. Sexual Withdrawer
Curiosity Over Rigidity
Sex as a Form of Regulation vs. Connection
Navigating Differences with Vulnerability and Flexibility
And more!
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51:19
What To Do When Your Partner is Still Defensive
In this episode, the hosts explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for. When partners often respond in protective ways—like shutting down or snapping back—can feel frustrating and disheartening—especially when you’re trying to be vulnerable and connect. Understanding what’s happening under the surface of that defensiveness and learning how to respond can completely shift the dynamic between you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to learn how to stay grounded, break negative cycles, and build true emotional safety—even when your partner is still reactive.
In this episode of Relationship Advice, we discuss relationship topics such as:
Protective Responses
How To Avoid Being “Baited” Into Reactivity
Tools To Stay In Vulnerability/Curiosity When You Partner Shuts Down
Internal vs. External Control
Tuning Into Your Window of Tolerance
How To Build Lasting Safety In Relationships
and much more!
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Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships.
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