Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Has sex become less about connection and more about keeping the peace?

In this episode, Janna talks with Joanna about a pattern many couples quietly fall into, where sex becomes a way to restore harmony, avoid conflict, or make a partner happier rather than an experience rooted in mutual desire, pleasure, and connection.

They unpack the emotional weight behind this dynamic and explore how it impacts both women’s sexuality and men’s relationship with intimacy. Joanna shares what she and her partner are doing differently now to move away from obligation and toward a more connected, playful, and fulfilling sex life.

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What happens when loving someone means letting go of the need to fix them?

Derek shares his journey of realizing that his attempts to rescue and support his wife were unintentionally creating distance between them. After years of trying to pull her out of pain and show her how wonderful life could be, he discovered that what she needed most wasn't someone to turn on the light—it was someone willing to sit with her in the darkness.

Together, Janna and Derek explore the difference between compassion and rescuing, how shame and discomfort can impact intimacy, and why seeing your partner as "broken" can prevent true connection.

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What if one of the keys to a more connected relationship isn't communicating better—but paying closer attention?

In this episode, Janna and her husband pull back the curtain on a practice they've been intentionally developing in their marriage: attunement. Rather than waiting for your partner to tell you exactly what they need, attunement is the skill of noticing, anticipating, and staying emotionally connected to their inner world.

Together, they explore why women are often socialized to be more attuned than men, how this dynamic can impact relationships, and the practical ways they're learning to think about and care for each other throughout the day. From feeling more seen and understood to creating deeper emotional and sexual connection, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on what it means to truly know and support your partner.

Listen to Part 1 of this series here: https://jannadentonhowes.com/185-mutual-vulnerability-for-a-better-sex-life/

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Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026.

When Lauren was invited to share her story on the podcast, she hesitated. Talking publicly about your sex life isn't easy—especially when your experience doesn't fit the cultural script of what a "healthy" woman is supposed to want. Then she surprised us with an unexpected suggestion: what if her sister joined the conversation?

What followed was a candid, funny, and moving discussion between two sisters whose experiences with sex, desire, marriage, motherhood, and womanhood couldn't look more different on the surface. Together, they unpack the impossible expectations placed on women, the messages they inherited about sexuality, and the ways both high desire and low desire can leave women feeling like they're somehow falling short.

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Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026.

In this surprisingly vulnerable conversation, Brian — a former fire chief turned maintenance mechanic — shares his story of growing up with almost no sex education beyond, “don’t get her pregnant,” and the quiet pressures men often carry alone. Together, we explore fear, conditioning, hard conversations, and what it looks like to begin questioning long-held patterns later in life.

At 58, Brian opens up about choosing self-reflection over defensiveness and the profound shifts that became possible when he and his wife started talking more honestly about intimacy and safety. This episode is a reminder that meaningful change is possible when we’re willing to listen, learn, and do things differently.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn more? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026.