Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

My podcast guest is Dr. Kervins Clement and his story is one that I hear about all the time- where a dependency on porn use and masturbation is justified as helping the relationship when, in fact, it often does the opposite.

In this episode we explore:

How Kervins’ own recovery shaped the way he now works with men and couples.
What his research revealed about the role of culture and history in treating Black men with sex addiction.
Why guilt and remorse don’t reliably stop lying and secrecy in addiction.
What partners actually need after betrayal and where their focus often goes too soon.

This is a thoughtful, nuanced conversation that isn’t just about sex addiction- it’s about honesty, courage and what healing truly requires.

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

We're re-releasing one of our most listened to episodes! If you’ve been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, you'll want to listen to Justin and Sandra's story.

Married for 19 years, they took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they’ve learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life’s ups and downs.

They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they’ve incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage.

You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:

Justin's Story in Episode 82
Sandra's Story in Episode 74

The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

There is no shortcut to heal from a toxic world that has tricked us into thinking sex is just a series of acts designed to physically stimulate us. The only way through is to slow down, unlearn and heal- not just for your marriage but for your well-being.

It’s understanding safety, not just physically, but emotionally.
It’s questioning the model of sex you were handed, instead of trying to perform it better.
It’s rebuilding trust with your own body.

And, when you’re doing this together, it’s learning how to create a sexual environment that doesn’t require forcing, convincing, or enduring.
This is exactly what I talk about in the podcast episode today- why trying harder is often the very thing that makes sex feel worse, not better.

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Justin joins me for a foundational episode in which we zoom out and discuss the role that men play when their wives have “low libido”.

He starts off by sharing how he felt when his wife stopped wanting to have sex with him- the feelings of confusion and worrying if he had done something wrong.

Then we take a journey through the unique ways men can contribute to a great sex life, how to create a comfortable, pressure-free environment and the work they can do outside of the bedroom.

I’m so grateful to work alongside Justin in supporting men and if you’d like to hear more of his story, you can listen to Episode 82 as well as Episode 148 with his wife, Sandra.

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Many women I talk to struggle enjoying physical touch during sex. They don’t know their experience can be any other way so they continue trying to enjoy things they don’t like and then label themselves as “non-sexual”.

In our conversation, my husband and I discuss:
• why so many women push themselves to initiate or say yes even when their body is clearly uncomfortable
• why discomfort is so often normalized through culture, media, and silence
• the real fears women carry about speaking up and the consequences they’re trying to avoid
• why this can feel shocking or confusing for men when the truth finally comes out

If having a closer, more connected and joyful sex life is something you want in your relationship, this episode is an important one to listen to.

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.