For The Hayters: The Stories We Survive

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses infertility, IVF, early pregnancy loss, and a family member's dementia.
Yvette married Josh in February 2022, and the plan was simple: start a family. After the wedding, her period never came back. It wasn't stress. It wasn't pregnancy. It was Turner syndrome, a chromosomal condition usually diagnosed in childhood. Yvette found out at 34, along with the news that her ovaries had already failed.
In this episode, Yvette talks about the family explanation that kept anyone from looking closer, the answer that was sitting in her chart unflagged, and what it really costs to build a family when the usual way isn't an option. She opens up about donor embryos, the conversation she had to have with Josh, and what it's like to keep hoping on a timeline she doesn't control.
For The Hayters is a podcast that normalizes hard conversations. Listener discretion is advised.
Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal.
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Every time I open my phone, someone is yelling that the market is about to crash. And honestly? I get anxious when money just sits there. Alex is the total opposite. She’s over here stressing about pulling money out of savings for a lanai she literally saved for. So this week we finally asked the question everyone’s whispering: is the market going to crash? Spoiler: nobody knows. Not Alex, not the guy on TikTok, not even most professional fund managers. The better question is what YOU are going to do when it happens.
The Solution
Correction, bear market, crash: what those scary words actually mean (10%, 20%, and “oh no”).
Panic selling is two bad bets: you have to time getting out AND getting back in, and selling turns a temporary dip into a permanent loss.
Time horizon is everything: if you don’t need this money for 30 years, today’s drop isn’t your emergency.
Your emergency fund is your crash pad: cash on hand means you’re never forced to sell at the bottom.
Sometimes it’s not the market, it’s your portfolio: if a dip has you losing sleep, your mix might be too aggressive for who you really are.
Keep contributing: sticking to your plan during a downturn means buying at lower prices.
Plus a listener question from a 38-year-old with $250K who wants to move it all to cash, and a detour to a stock market bar in Barcelona where the drink prices crash too.
This week’s homework
Open your investment account and run the 30% test. Multiply your balance by 0.7 and write that number down. Then sit with it. Would you panic? Would you sell? Would you stop contributing? If the honest answer scares you, adjust your plan now, not in the middle of a crash.
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Trigger warnings: abortion, miscarriage, NICU and infant medical emergency, pediatric surgery, chronic pain, vision loss, panic attacks and alcohol use, parental infidelity and anger, family estrangement.
Bree was born visually impaired. By the time she was five, she'd had six or seven eye surgeries. For twenty-two years, nobody could explain why her body worked the way it did: the cataracts, the glaucoma, the hole in her heart, the dental problems dentists had never seen before, and the daily pain she assumed everyone had.
At 22, genetic testing finally gave her a name for it: oculofaciocardiodental (OFCD) syndrome, a rare genetic disorder she could pass on to her children. For someone whose biggest dream was to be a mom, the answer didn't feel like relief. It felt like one more thing to grieve.
Bree talks about growing up with a mom who fought for her at every turn and a dad who mostly wasn't there, the losses that came before her daughter, a NICU stay nobody could fully explain, and what it's like to sit on the other side of the exam table now, advocating for a little girl who shares her diagnosis.
For The Hayters is a podcast that normalizes hard conversations. Listener discretion is advised.
Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal.
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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses traumatic brain injury, drunk driving, substance use and addiction (including heroin), overdose, sexual assault, not caring whether you live or die, psychiatric hospitalization, a serious car crash, and the overdose death of a close friend.
At 15, Rachel was flying through the air at Worlds. Cheer wasn't her hobby. It was her whole life. Then one summer evening, a drunk driver ran a stop sign and hit her while she was crossing on her bike. She jumped up and told everyone she was fine.
She wasn't. The brain injury nobody could see took her grades, her muscle memory, her sport, and her friends. What came after took her to places her family still can't fully talk about. In this conversation, Rachel talks about the years she barely remembers, the parents who never stopped showing up, and the surprisingly ordinary moment she finally walked away.
This is a story about teen addiction, invisible injury, regret, and what it looks like to build a quiet life after years of chaos.
For The Hayters is a podcast that normalizes hard conversations. Listener discretion is advised.
Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal.
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Confession: I took out a personal loan this month. After working SO hard to get where I am, I had to go back ten steps because our old house has not sold and the credit card interest was starting to scare me. I'm telling you because this show is about being honest about money, even when it's embarrassing. I'm also telling you because Alex has opinions about how to do it right.
Then we get into the conversation nobody wants to have until they're forced to. What happens when your parents retire and realize they don't have enough? Are you supposed to help? And how do you do that while you're paying your own mortgage, raising kids, and trying to save for your own retirement? Alex and I have lived this one with our own family, so we're getting real about it.
The Solution
Medicare is not free: Part B alone runs about $202.90 a month in 2026, before deductibles, coinsurance, prescriptions, dental, vision, and hearing.
Long-term care is a need, not a place: Whether it's assisted living (median cost around $6,200 a month) or someone checking in on Mom once a day, it costs money and someone has to provide it.
Three questions before you help: Is this an emergency? Is there a sustainable solution? Can you actually afford it without wrecking your own future?
Don't create your kids' problem: If you sacrifice your retirement to fund your parents', you might be handing the same crisis down a generation.
If you're 50 and behind: Know your numbers, estimate what retirement will really cost, plan for healthcare and housing, and have the family conversation now.
This week's homework
Pick one parent, partner, or even just yourself and ask three questions. How much is saved for retirement? What happens if someone needs long-term care? What do you expect from family financially? Write down the answers, even if they're scary. Especially if they're scary.
Patreon members get Alex's full retirement expense checklist and the complete list of questions to ask your parents.
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Money is emotional. And you deserve to feel safe with it.
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