Navigating Adult ADHD

Ever feel like you can't trust yourself to follow through, make good decisions or stick to your plans?

When you have ADHD, years of forgotten appointments, abandoned projects & broken promises to yourself can leave you feeling like you're the one person you can't rely on.

But what if self-trust isn't about getting everything right?

In this episode, we're talking about:
Why adults with ADHD often struggle with self-trust
The sneaky ways low self-trust shows up in everyday life
How seeking other people's approval can undermine our confidence
Why validating your feelings & honouring your needs matters
Two simple ways to start rebuilding trust in yourself

Because self-trust isn't about knowing you'll never mess up. It's about knowing you can handle things when you do.

LINKS TO MORE STUFF FROM US:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

In this episode, we're talking about why so many adults with ADHD struggle with self-confidence, the sneaky ways we destroy it & how to start building it without needing to become a completely different person.

We'll explore:
Why your thoughts about yourself matter more than you realise
3 things that destroy self-confidence (hello, perfectionism!)
3 practical ways to start building confidence
Why self-acceptance doesn't mean giving up on improving
How courage & self-compassion help you have your own back

Because self-confidence isn't built by never messing up.
It's built by knowing that even when you mess up, you'll support yourself.

[Xena also suggests checking out episode #49: ADHD & Self-esteem]

LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM US:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

Do you struggle to speak up, ask for what you need or worry that advocating for yourself will make you seem “difficult”?

In this episode, we’re talking about self-advocacy with ADHD & why learning to have your own back can be especially important when you’ve spent years believing you were the problem.

We’ll cover:
Why late-diagnosed ADHDers can find self-advocacy so uncomfortable
The difference between being assertive & aggressive
How self-awareness helps you figure out what you actually need
My 2 questions for navigating difficult conversations
Practical ways to advocate for yourself at work, home & medical appointments
Why speaking up is still a win, even when you don’t get the answer you wanted

Plus, the story of a very disappointing glass of bubbles that sparked this whole conversation 🥂

LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM US:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

Ever spend the whole day exhausted, promise yourself an early night… then suddenly it’s midnight & your brain has decided NOW is the perfect time to come alive? 

In this episode, we’re talking about ADHD & sleep & why getting to bed, falling asleep & actually feeling rested can be such a bloody struggle.

We’ll cover:
Why some ADHD body clocks naturally run later
Bedtime procrastination, time blindness & the “just one more thing” trap
Why nighttime can feel like the only part of the day that’s actually yours
Racing thoughts, stimulation & why lying quietly in the dark doesn’t always help
Practical, ADHD-friendly ways to make sleep easier
Why poor sleep can make ADHD feel even louder
When sleep problems might be worth looking into properly

Plus, plenty of very relatable examples of what our brains get up to when they should be sleeping.

LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM US:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

Why can your ADHD brain receive 10 lovely comments… then obsess over the ONE person who criticised you?

In this episode, we’re talking about RSD, its lesser-known flip side RRE (Recognition Responsive Euphoria) & why genuine recognition can have such a powerful impact on ADHD brains.

We’ll cover:
Why rejection & criticism can hit so bloody hard
Why ADHD brains can forget the good & cling to the bad
How recognition can boost motivation, energy & confidence
Why you need to create your own File of Fantastic Shit
What to put in it & when to use it

Because sometimes your brain needs reminding of the evidence it conveniently forgot…

LINKS TO GOOD SH*T FROM XENA:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!