Navigating Adult ADHD

When both partners have ADHD, relationships can be full of fun, spontaneity, creativity & a deep sense of “you just get me.” 
But two ADHD brains can also mean double the executive dysfunction, emotional dysregulation, RSD, impulsivity & forgotten life admin.

In this episode, I’m exploring what happens when ADHD meets ADHD in a relationship & why having the same diagnosis doesn’t mean having the same brain.

We’ll talk about:
Why RSD + RSD can turn a conversation about dirty dishes into a full-blown relationship argument
What happens when two emotionally dysregulated brains trigger each other
Executive dysfunction, unequal mental loads and the dreaded “I thought YOU were doing it”
How completely different ADHD profiles can clash
Money, impulsivity, sex & intimacy 
The genuinely GOOD parts of being with someone whose brain works a little like yours
8 practical tools to help you communicate, regulate, stay connected & build systems that actually work for both of you

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*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

When we talk about ADHD, we spend a lot of time talking about dopamine... but what if we've been overlooking another brain chemical that could make a real difference?

In this episode, we're exploring oxytocin. Often called the connection chemical or the love drug,  oxytocin plays an important role in helping us feel safe & connected. It also works closely alongside dopamine, making it especially relevant for ADHD brains.

We'll unpack what oxytocin is, why it matters & simple, practical ways you can increase it in everyday life. From hugs & pets to voice notes, nature walks & meaningful conversations, you'll discover why connection isn't just a nice idea... it may actually help support your ADHD brain.

In this episode you'll learn:
How oxytocin and dopamine work together in the ADHD brain
Why connection can support emotional regulation, relationships, motivation & impulse control
The surprising difference between texting & hearing someone's voice
Why walking with a friend might be one of the best things you can do for your brain
Simple, ADHD-friendly ways to increase oxytocin every day

LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM US:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

Why is it that we can be calm, focused & capable in a crisis, but feel completely paralysed by a simple phone call?

In this episode, I share the story of breaking down alone on a pitch-black country road & how I handled it like a f*cking boss. 

In this episode, we cover:
Why ADHD brains can work better in a crisis
The role of dopamine, norepinephrine & stimulation
Why clear, urgent problems can feel easier than vague everyday tasks
How relying on panic & last-minute pressure can lead to burnout
Why coping well in the moment does not mean your body is not stressed
How to borrow from “crisis mode” without creating an actual crisis

HERE'S MORE GOOD SH*T FROM NAVIGATING ADULT ADHD:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

ADHD is often described as a problem with focus, organisation & hyperactivity, but that leaves out a huge part of the picture.

In this episode, we are exploring five things doctors can still get wrong about adult ADHD, including:
Why emotional dysregulation is a major part of ADHD
Why success does not rule out a diagnosis
How ADHD in women can hide behind anxiety, depression & competence
The impact hormones can have on symptoms & medication
Why ADHD is not an inability to pay attention

We also look at why lived experience matters, how outdated assumptions can lead to people being dismissed & what a fuller understanding of ADHD can look like.

LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM US:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!

Where’s the line between being authentically yourself and oversharing because… Hi we have ADHD!

In this episode, I’m unpacking why so many ADHDers share deeply, quickly & sometimes before we’ve checked whether we actually want to. 

We’ll explore:
Why ADHD can make us crave fast connection
How impulsivity, dysregulation, shame & masking can fuel oversharing
The difference between authenticity & urgency
Why privacy & boundaries do not mean you’re being fake or inauthentic
Questions to help reflect on what you choose to share

You can be open, honest and completely yourself without giving everyone immediate access to every part of you.

LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM NAVIGATING ADULT ADHD:
*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain
*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)
*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD
*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List
*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena
*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 
*Come hang out with me on Instagram!