Finding Fertility

• The Hidden Reason You’re Addicted to “Doing” on Your TTC, Infertility & IVF Journey

  Stillness isn’t stagnation. It’s integration. Topics Discussed The chaos addiction blocking your fertility Nervous system dysregulation and fertility struggles How trauma patterns show up after you get pregnant Epigenetics, motherhood, and the cost of overdoing Why your body can’t receive in a high-alert state The energetic upgrade from hustle to healing How to actually trust the pause without spiraling You can chase in chaos, but you can’t receive in chaos. Show Notes Summary Hello Beautiful Souls, the voice of Monica here... This one's raw, real, and honestly a little uncomfortable, in the best way. I skipped a podcast episode for the first time in five years. Not because I forgot. Not because I didn’t care. But because I’m practicing what I preach: stepping out of chaos and into calm. This episode is a full-on permission slip to stop running yourself into the ground in the name of fertility. The endless doing, fixing, tweaking, chasing—it might feel productive, but it’s actually the very frequency that’s keeping your body in survival. Stillness, on the other hand, is scary because it’s unfamiliar. But that’s exactly where your intuition gets loud and your nervous system learns to receive. I get into how these patterns don’t magically disappear once you get pregnant, and why so many mamas find themselves overwhelmed, triggered, and exhausted postpartum. If your chaos feels safer than peace, this episode is your invitation to shift. Press play. Let it land. And ask yourself: what if letting go is what moves you forward? You’re not falling behind. You’re finally tuning in. Timestamps 00:00 Why chaos is more comfortable than calm 03:25 The illusion of productivity in your fertility journey 04:52 Pregnancy and motherhood don’t erase your patterns 07:50 The chaos comfort zone and your nervous system 08:51 Why peace can feel like panic and how to shift 12:54 Stillness as the gateway to intuition and coherence 14:50 How to gently rewire your frequency without overwhelm 16:18 Stillness doesn't mean failure. It means possibility 20:04 Preview of next week’s grounding and clearing practice Read Mable's Truth # 10: Finding Comfort in Chaos During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-10-finding-comfort-in-chaos-during-infertility-ivf Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-reason-you-re-addicted-to-doing-on-your-ttc-infertility-ivf-journey Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica   Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: [email protected] [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  🍍   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.  

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• How to Break Free from Overthinking and Hustle Energy During IVF & Infertility

  "You do not need another plan, you need presence." Topics Discussed: How scattered priorities sabotage fertility healing Rewiring subconscious patterns with consistency Understanding fear-based supplement routines The emotional cost of over-functioning and perfectionism Embodying the energy you want your baby to be raised in Recognizing when ‘calm’ is just another performance How to shift from chasing to receiving Truth # 9 Scattered Priorities During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-9-scattered-priorities-during-infertility-ivf "Your baby is not waiting for you to be perfect, your baby is waiting for you to stop abandoning yourself." Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be... Today’s episode is not for the faint of heart, but for the brave souls ready to ditch the invisible hustle and finally get real about where their energy is leaking. If you think slowing down means you're not hustling anymore, think again. Inside, you might still be sprinting like you are training for the Fertility Olympics. In this episode, we call out the sneaky ways perfectionism, fear-based habits, and shiny new supplement plans are secretly sabotaging your journey — and we bring it all back to radical honesty, radical presence, and radical self-love. We even tap into the deeper truth that sometimes, the stillness you are craving feels terrifying because your nervous system only knows chaos. Spoiler alert: you cannot out-supplement, out-research, or out-strategize your way into coherence. You have to live it. Piece by piece, moment by moment, tree nap by tree nap. If you are ready to stop proving, stop chasing, and start receiving, this episode is your wake-up call. "Some of your healthy habits might be keeping you stuck, because they are still rooted in fear." Timestamps 00:00 – The real reason your fertility journey feels overwhelming 01:30 – How scattered priorities sneak in without you noticing 03:00 – Why calm is not clarity if you are still performing 06:00 – Supplements: helpful support or fear-based crutch 09:00 – Radical responsibility and emotional triggers 13:00 – Why consistency, not chaos, brings your dreams into reality "Your dreams are not far away, they are already here — you just have to meet them in your now." Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-break-free-from-overthinking-and-hustle-energy-during-ivf-infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica   Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: [email protected] [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  🍍   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

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• Still Stuck in InFertility & IVF Burnout? The Subtle Shift That Changes Everything

  “Your old self will fight you over stillness because she doesn’t believe it’s safe.” • The gut-brain-womb connection • Fascia, trauma, and reproductive inflammation • Physical manifestations like fibroids and endometriosis • The emotional aftermath of fertility treatments • Why you still don’t trust your body after IVF • The illusion of control • Grieving as a form of healing • Honoring emotional waves rather than bypassing them • Frequency shifts through micro-moments • Living in survival mode and how to get out • The danger of looping old subconscious patterns • Why trust lives in the body, not the mind • How coherence creates space for alignment • Energetic stillness as the new safety “The magic doesn’t lie in the knowledge—it’s in the integration, the coherence, the alignment.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… Today’s episode is a love note to every over-functioning, perfection-chasing woman who's convinced that doing more is the only way out. Spoiler alert: it’s not. In fact, the exact thing you’re resisting—stillness—is the very frequency your future baby is waiting for. We’re diving deep into how Mabel, our resident recovering Type A, finally did something different. She didn’t buy another supplement. She didn’t add a new protocol. She simply slowed down. And in that pause, she found the real power—safety, trust, and coherence. You’ll hear why emotional trauma disrupts more than your mindset—it lives in your fascia, your gut, your womb. And if you don’t feel safe in your body, how the hell are you supposed to trust it? From grief to gut health to gut punches of truth, this episode hits hard and soft all at once. Listen in, feel it all, and get ready to stop spiraling and start receiving. “You can’t trust your body if you don’t feel safe inside it.” Timestamps 00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 01:03 – The micro-moment that changed everything for Mabel 03:22 – Coherence vs. chaos: your body craves a new kind of safety 04:46 – Real reasons you don’t trust your body (and it’s not your fault) 06:43 – Trauma, fascia, and the invisible root of fertility issues 08:11 – Monica’s raw story of grief and honoring emotional waves 10:31 – Radical responsibility in the mundane moments 12:22 – What Mabel’s spirit baby revealed (and why it’ll give you chills) 15:03 – The one small thing you can do today to shift your energy “Trust doesn’t live in your brain—it lives in your body.” Read Truth #8: What If the Pause Is the Portal to Fertility Success During IVF & Infertility?https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-8-what-if-the-pause-is-the-portal-to-fertility-success-during-ivf-infertility Full transcript over on the blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/still-stuck-in-infertility-ivf-burnout-the-subtle-shift-that-changes-everything Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica   Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: [email protected] [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  🍍   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

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• The IVF Cycle Wasn’t Aligned and She Knew It (But Did It Anyway)

  This Active Meditation Helps You Hear the Fertility Answers Already Inside You  "Your intuition isn’t missing, it’s just buried under layers of fear, guilt, and Google tabs." Topics Discussed: • Fertility burnout and emotional fatigue • IVF trauma and feeling broken after failure • The subconscious blocks sabotaging inner knowing • A guided frequency-based practice to shift stuck emotions • Gut instinct vs. overthinking (and how your body tells the truth) • Coherence, embodiment, and listening to the womb-heart-brain connection Truth # 7: From Overthinking to Inner Knowing During Infertility: Trusting Yourself on the Road to Pregnancy: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overthinking-to-inner-knowing-during-infertility "Intuition isn’t a magical skill you need to learn, it’s a power you need to stop ignoring." Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be... You’ve done it all. You’ve tracked, tested, timed, and twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to "do it right"—but something still feels off. In this episode, we go deep into what that off actually is. Spoiler: it’s not your uterus, it’s not your protocol, it’s not even the moon phase. It’s that you’ve been trained to trust data over your divine knowing, and it’s time to come back home to yourself. Mabel’s journey through IVF heartbreak led her not to the end, but to the beginning of her own awakening. And yours can too. This episode walks you through a powerful, active meditation to shift the stuck frequencies that are jamming your inner signal. We’re talking fear, guilt, shame, grief—the whole unglamorous gang—and helping you finally feel them so you can alchemize them. Get cozy or take this on a walk and let this practice unlock the clarity that’s been inside you all along. Ready to stop chasing and start trusting? Then press play. "I do not lose the dream, I alchemize it." Timestamps: 00:00 – Why tuning into intuition is more powerful than another supplement 02:50 – The moment Mabel ignored her inner knowing and hit her breaking point 04:44 – The step-by-step frequency practice to unblock intuition 06:13 – Where emotions get stuck in the body and what they might look like 12:48 – Honoring your frequency and shifting stuck emotions 15:42 – Anchoring into love, creativity, and the frequency of motherhood "Your womb holds unexpressed potential. Stop silencing her with spreadsheets and fear." Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-fertility-clarity-you-ve-been-ignoring-hint-it-s-not-another-protocol-during-ivf-infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica   Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: [email protected] [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  🍍   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

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• The Truth About Self-Sabotage, Cellular Health & Fertility Success When You're Dealing with Infertility

  "I sabotage everything for myself and I get in my own way. Even knowing that I can not stop it." 🧠 Topics Discussed How self-sabotage shows up in fertility journeys The connection between fear of judgment and subconscious patterns Why we suppress our truth without realizing it How childhood experiences program our nervous system to stay “safe” Fertility success as a byproduct of aligning with your authentic self The importance of subconscious empowerment and emotional processing How to break through ingrained patterns using Fertile Mind & DREAMS Affirmations to rewire fear-based beliefs Monica’s personal story of transformation from insecure to empowered Fertility not being something you fix—because you're not broken Motherhood as the ultimate mirror Why radical responsibility & inner work are non-negotiables for conscious motherhood "Maybe you were raised to believe your worth was tied to making others happy, so you learned to perform instead of just be." 🎧 Show Notes Hello beautiful! Monica here—and ooooh baby, are we getting into the thick of it this week. You ever feel like you’ve become the main villain in your own fertility story? Like you’re standing at the edge of breakthrough-ville, but your subconscious is like, “Nope. Let’s binge Netflix and spiral instead.” Yep, that’s self-sabotage, and she’s a sneaky little gremlin with a crown. In this episode, we’re diving into why you keep getting in your own way—even when you know better. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy or broken. It’s because your subconscious is on full panic mode, terrified of being judged, rejected, or—gasp—seen. I unpack a real (and wildly relatable) conversation with a Finding Fertility community member who said, “Even when I know I’m doing it, I can’t stop sabotaging myself.” Cue the collective “ugh, SAME.” We talk about the fears that drive these patterns, how they tie into your childhood, and why they absolutely have everything to do with your fertility—even if they seem unrelated. And I’m not just dishing theory here. You’ll get practical tools, soul-hitting affirmations, and even some sass about why getting pregnant isn’t the endgame—becoming the conscious version of you is. So if you’ve ever filtered yourself in fear, stayed quiet to keep the peace, or talked yourself out of doing something your soul was screaming for—this one’s for you. Let’s crack open those protective shells, pour some love on your scared inner child, and rewire those crusty old stories. Because your body? She already knows what to do. Now it’s your job to stop getting in her way. "Your fertility isn’t broken. Your body innately knows what to do." ⏱ Timestamps 00:00 Welcome & intro 01:01 Why self-sabotage is more common than we think 02:30 Fear of judgment & the subconscious mind 04:18 Suppressing our truth without realizing it 05:13 Childhood programming & nervous system safety 06:11 What this has to do with fertility 07:39 Returning to your center—your “North Pole” 08:35 The role of subconscious empowerment in change 10:32 Tools to break self-sabotage: awareness & action 12:27 Affirmations to shift your self-beliefs 14:53 Self-sabotage is just a cry for safety 15:23 Monica’s personal story of transformation 16:47 Boosting cellular health = fertility magic 18:39 Tease for next week’s episode: The Distress of Intuition 19:38 Invitation for a breakthrough session Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-truth-about-self-sabotage-cellular-health-fertility-success-when-you-re-dealing-with-infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica   Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: [email protected] [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10   🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i   🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  🍍   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

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