The Laura Dowling Experience

Vicki Notaro is back! Her new novel, Anywhere but Here, follows three friends all hovering around 40 and living completely different lives. As Vicki puts it, you can be 40 and you can be a granny, or trying to conceive, or single, or divorced. She and Laura talk about the pressure women feel to have everything sorted by a certain age, and why marriage or a mortgage was never meant to be a finish line.

Vicki also gives an honest update on her women's health journey: years of very painful periods, a suspected endometriosis that turned out to be ovarian cysts, a PMDD diagnosis and cyclical depression alongside lifelong anxiety, a coil, surgery, a recurrence, and the oral progesterone that cleared her brain fog within two days.

From there the conversation turns to what young people lost when magazines disappeared. Vicki spent four years at Kiss from the age of 22, acting as a "big sis" to teenage readers, and she makes a warm case for edited, expert-checked advice over the "wild wild west of TikTok" — before Laura hands her a pile of anonymous listener confessions to answer.

🔑 Key Points

Women the same age are living completely different lives

"You can be 40 and you can be a granny" — Vicki's novel follows three friends around 40 at entirely different stages, something she sees as new in Irish life.

Milestones are a beginning, not a finish line

Vicki talks about the pressure to have the house, the relationship and possibly a baby sorted by a certain age, and why she has never seen those moments as the end of the story.

Writing about being child-free by choice once brought hate mail

She first wrote about not wanting children at 22, when it was still taboo, and was told again and again that she just hadn't met the right man.

Years of pain, and a diagnosis that came later

Suspected endometriosis turned out to be ovarian cysts, and a PMDD diagnosis explained the low, cyclical days sitting on top of lifelong anxiety.

Hormones can lift brain fog within days

After a cyst returned, her consultant added oral progesterone alongside the coil she already had, and Vicki describes her brain fog clearing within two days.

Magazines did a job nothing has replaced.

At Kiss, Vicki answered readers' questions about periods, spots and first kisses as their "big sis" — advice that was edited, curated and expert-checked.

Confessions, answered without judgement

Laura hands Vicki anonymous confessions from the Love Your Vulva live show — desire, hygiene, being left out for not having children, Botox and breast reduction — and the answers stay kind throughout.

📚 Resources

Anywhere but Here
Vicki Notaro's fourth novel, published by Penguin

Endometriosis
the condition first suspected behind Vicki's years of period pain

Period problems and PMDD
HSE guidance on severe premenstrual symptoms

Love Your Vulva Live
Laura's live show, where the anonymous confessions were gathered

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 — Vicki takes over as host for the summer
06:23 — Anywhere but Here: three women, three different lives at 40
09:29 — The pressure to have it all sorted by a certain age
10:34 — Writing about being child-free at 22
13:30 — Kiss magazine and being everyone's "big sis"
21:51 — Writer's block in her mother-in-law's spare room
24:50 — Painful periods, suspected endometriosis and ovarian cysts
25:50 — A PMDD diagnosis and cyclical depression
26:39 — Oral progesterone and brain fog lifting in two days
28:27 — Listener confessions, answered honestly
35:40 — Botox honesty, and why Laura stopped
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In this bitesize moment pulled from the Laura Dowling Experience back catalogue, fitness coach, author and speaker Brian Keane tells the story of hating his first career as a teacher — and the line from his mum that changed everything.

He's honest that reinvention isn't instant (he went broke twice before it worked) and lands on a reframe anyone can use: it's not being stuck that traps you, it's the feeling of being stuck.

🔑Key Points
• The day Brian knew his first career was the wrong fit
• His mum's question: "what would you do for free?"
• Why it's the feeling of being stuck, not the situation, that holds you back
• How reinvention can take time, including failing along the way

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What do you do when you feel stuck - in a job you hate, a relationship that has gone flat, or a version of yourself you no longer recognise? Life and business coach Mark Fennell joins Laura for a warm, practical conversation about how people actually get moving again - starting not with a grand plan, but with a single next step.

A qualified electrician who began as a youth volunteer worker, Mark shares how coaching became his life's work, and why identity - how you see yourself - sits underneath almost everything. He speaks with real tenderness about the loss he and his wife carried when they were told they couldn't have children, and how they slowly built a genuinely contented life by asking one question: what can we still do that brings us in that direction?

From the medical student who became a millionaire painter-decorator to the young carer who believed he would never laugh again, Mark's stories keep returning to the same truths: make the decision, take the action, and be careful what you define yourself as. Along the way, he and Laura take a more realistic look at manifestation, the fluff in the wellness world, and why, in relationships especially, action communicates far more than words.

🔑 Key Points

You don't have to figure out your whole life — just the next step
When a young medical student admitted he only knew what he didn't want, Mark's question — when were you last fully content? — led him to painting, and eventually to running a hugely successful painting and decorating business.

Identity is the most important vision board
How you see yourself matters more than any board on the wall — even a Fortune 500 CFO Mark worked with was gripped by imposter syndrome until she saw that her experience, not her credentials, had earned her the role.

Contentment can be rebuilt after loss
When Mark and his wife were told they couldn't have children, they refused to let it ruin their lives — and by taking small steps towards contentment, without putting a time on it, they reached a place with no void.

Take manifestation with a pinch of salt
What you focus on shapes what you notice, but thinking without action is dead — and the most important thing to manifest isn't the bigger house or the best job, it's a content life.

Burnout ends where honesty begins
Mark collapsed in the gym and was rushed to hospital with a suspected heart attack — what followed was health anxiety, and a recovery built on balance, movement and refusing to say "I am an anxious person".

Action communicates far more than words
A couple Mark worked with rediscovered each other not through big emotional talks but through a date night — a reminder that relationships, like gardens, need tending before you decide they're done.

Be careful what you define yourself as
Mark learned from his granny, who refused to see herself as a cancer victim, that the labels we accept shape how we live — and, as he reminds young people, nobody is confident all of the time.

📚 Resources

Breakthrough — Mark Fennell's book on moving from stuck to unstoppable, published by Gill
Mark's practical guide to getting unstuck.

Mark Fennell — coaching, courses and speaking
Also on Instagram and TikTok.

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 — Introduction
02:36 — From electrician and youth worker to coach
05:47 — Identity: the most important vision board
07:32 — Fertility loss and choosing contentment
10:00 — The med student who became a painter-decorator
13:07 — Manifestation with a pinch of salt
16:46 — How the book Breakthrough came about
19:15 — Is contentment actually realistic?
20:35 — The fluff in the wellness world
23:29 — The young carer who thought he'd never laugh again
30:13 — Burnout, the gym collapse and health anxiety
39:27 — The date-night story
57:32 — Advice for young people and the meaning of life
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In this bitesize moment pulled from the Laura Dowling Experience back catalogue, former lawyer turned businesswoman Nikki Dwyer explains why coercive, narcissistic abuse rarely looks the way people expect — it's a slow erosion of confidence through criticism, gaslighting and isolation.

She speaks candidly about how losing nearly everything became the moment she could stop drifting and consciously choose who she wanted to be. It's honest, raw and ultimately hopeful.

🔑Key Points
• Why abusive relationships rarely look the way people expect from the outside
• How criticism, gaslighting and isolation slowly wear down confidence
• Why being capable or strong doesn't make you immune
• Turning the loss of everything into a chance to choose who you want to be

💛 If anything here feels close to home, it's not your fault. In Ireland, Women's Aid (womensaid.ie) offers free, confidential support.

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This week Laura sits down with Dr John Loy, one of the busiest weight-loss surgeons working between Ireland and the UK. He grew up behind the bar of a family pub in County Down, which he says was the best training in medicine he ever had, before a chance meeting in New York changed how he thinks about the whole job.

It's a warm, funny and genuinely eye-opening conversation about obesity as a disease rather than a choice, and about the person on the other side of the desk. John explains why more than half of his patients cry at their first appointment, why he never asks how much weight they've lost, and why the goals that matter are seeing your own child's First Communion from behind the camera — not the number on the scales.

He also gives one of the clearest explanations you'll hear of how weight-loss surgery actually works - the gastric balloon, the sleeve and the bypass - why a bypass is like "a free GLP-1 injection every day for life", and why, despite the rise of the weight-loss injections, demand for surgery is climbing rather than falling.

🔑 Key Points

Obesity is a disease, not a choice
John argues it should be treated in stages, like cancer, and that denying people care on a BMI cut-off is simply wrong.

A gastric bypass is like "a free GLP-1 injection for life"
The surgery isn't just about a smaller stomach; it changes the gut hormones that tell your brain you're full.

The weight-loss injections haven't ended surgery — the opposite
Many patients try the injections first, stall or can't afford them, and find a sleeve pays for itself within a few years.

Three procedures, three different jobs
The swallowable balloon, the sleeve and the bypass each suit a different stage — John explains who each one is for.

Blood sugar settles before the weight comes off
Diabetes can resolve within days of surgery, long before any weight is lost — proof of how closely the gut and brain talk.

The best consultation starts with "why are you here?"
Rather than judging, John asks patients their story — and finds the roots often reach right back to childhood.

Non-scale victories are what matter
He never asks how much weight a patient has lost; he asks whether they can finally take their kids to Disney World.

A childhood in the pub was the best training he ever had
Learning to talk to people across a bar counter, he says, taught him more about medicine than any exam.

📚 Resources

Auralia
Dr John Loy's clinic in Dublin, offering gastric sleeve, bypass and balloon procedures

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 — Introduction
00:50 — The cruise-ship patient who thought it was his last trip
04:23 — Why half his patients cry at the first appointment
05:20 — Obesity: the last acceptable prejudice
06:52 — From a County Tyrone pub to the operating theatre
09:29 — The gut-brain link: why blood sugar settles first
10:20 — Sleeve, bypass and "a free GLP-1 for life"
10:48 — Are the injections ending surgery? The opposite
13:47 — The balloon, the sleeve and the bypass explained
19:42 — New York and the philosophy of surgery
22:52 — Non-scale victories and the surgical-cat tattoo
34:34 — Ikigai, travel and the meaning of life
Thanks for listening! You can watch the full episode on YouTube here. Don’t forget to follow The Laura Dowling Experience podcast on Instagram @lauradowlingexperience for updates and more information. You can also follow our host, Laura Dowling, @fabulouspharmacist for more insights and tips. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review—it really helps us out! Stay tuned for more great conversations.
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