Have you noticed how many people wear T-shirts, tote bags, or pins that say “F#@k MS,” “F#@k Cancer,” “F#@k Fibromyalgia,” “F#@k Pain,” or “F#@k This Fatigue”?There’s a reason those slogans resonate so deeply — they capture something that most people living with chronic health conditions rarely get to express openly: anger.That gut-level, exhausted, fed-up, “I can’t do this anymore” kind of anger.The anger at your body, the system, the doctors, the constant uncertainty.The anger at how small your world can feel some days — and how invisible that pain often is to others.In this episode, Seona and Sally unpack where that anger comes from, what the research tells us about it, and how to turn it from a destructive force into something empowering and protective.Because behind every “F#@k my condition” moment is a person who still cares deeply about their life — and wants things to be better.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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Rewriting the Rules - Living beyond Society’s Shoulds
We all grow up absorbing society’s “shoulds”—what success looks like, how much we’re meant to achieve, and even how our bodies should function. But what happens when life doesn’t fit those rules? For many people living with chronic illness, these expectations become not only unrealistic, but harmful.In this episode, we explore the hidden weight of societal expectations and why unlearning them is essential—not just for those managing health conditions, but for anyone longing to live more freely. We’ll talk about how to spot the “shoulds” that keep you stuck, why they hit harder when you’re navigating illness, and what it looks like to rewrite the rules in a way that honours your health, your values, and your humanity.Practical strategies, reflective prompts, and a big dose of compassion will help you step into a life defined not by external pressure, but by authenticity and freedom.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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I Get Tired Too - Re-Release
This week, we revisit this episode of But You Look So Good where we explored the complexities of relatability when living with a chronic health condition. While well-meaning friends and family often try to connect, their efforts can sometimes feel dismissive or invalidating—especially when it comes to fatigue. Through personal stories, roleplays, and relatable scenarios, they unpack the stark difference between everyday symptoms and the persistent, overwhelming nature of chronic ones. Join the conversation to gain insights on how to foster genuine connection, empathy, and better communication with loved ones, while validating the unique challenges faced by those living with chronic conditions.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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Why Do We Self-Sabotage?
Ever caught yourself procrastinating, avoiding, or making choices that don’t serve you — even when you know better? That’s self-sabotage, and it’s far more common than we think. In this episode, Sally and Seona unpack why we get in our own way, what the research says about it, and how chronic health challenges can add extra layers of complexity. Together, they explore practical strategies to recognise self-sabotage, respond with compassion, and start moving in the direction that matters most.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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What if I’ve Made the Wrong Decision?
Sally and Seona explore the tricky (and sometimes tormenting) world of decision-making — especially when living with chronic health challenges. From decision fatigue to the regret spiral, they unpack why choices can feel so loaded and share practical ways to take the pressure down a notch. Think: treating decisions as data gathering, leaning into values, and sprinkling in some much-needed self-compassion. A thoughtful reframe to help you worry less about “the wrong decision” and focus more on what matters.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
Two psychologists on a mission to illuminate the realities of living with chronic health conditions. Hosted by Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio, both living with chronic conditions themselves. They lead Livology, a private practice specialising in psychological support for those navigating chronic health challenges. Tune in to hear candid conversations and professional insights designed to create community and connection within the chronic health conditions population.
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