But You Look So Good

• Who's Going to Date You Now? - Re-Release

  Re-Release: In this episode titled “Who’s going to date you now?," hosts Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio tackle the complexities of dating with a chronic health condition. They delve into the unique challenges of disclosing your condition to potential partners and how this crucial conversation can often serve as a useful screener for compatibility or to filter out unsuitable matches. Sally and Seona share their personal experiences of dating after their diagnoses, offering candid insights and practical advice for navigating romance with a chronic illness. ⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠⁠Webinars and Resources⁠If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠.⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠⁠

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• Can We Talk? Effective Communication for Real Life

  Communication feels like it should come naturally — we speak every day, after all — but real, effective communication isn’t instinctive. It’s a learned skill, not a personality trait. And if you’ve ever thought, “I’m just not good at communicating,” here’s the good news: you absolutely can learn it, strengthen it, and make it work for you.In this episode, we unpack why communicating can feel so much harder when you’re juggling symptoms, fatigue, emotions, or just the general overwhelm of life. Because let’s be honest — expressing your needs, setting boundaries, or navigating tricky conversations takes energy… and sometimes you simply don’t have much to give.We’re here to normalise it: you’re not bad at communicating — you’re tired, stretched, and human. Join us as we explore practical, compassionate ways to communicate more clearly, kindly, and confidently, even when you’re not at your best.⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)Webinars and ResourcesIf you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

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• Running on Spoons

  Ever wondered why people with chronic illness talk so much about spoons?In today’s episode, psychologists Sally and Seona dive into Spoon Theory - the cutlery-based metaphor that attempts to explain what it’s like to navigate life with limited energy. They unpack the origin story of the theory, created in 2003 by writer Christine Miserandino, who used a handful of spoons in a restaurant to explain the invisible daily costs of living with lupus.Sally and Seona chat about why the spoon metaphor resonates so deeply with people living with chronic health conditions, how it helps with communication, pacing and planning, and why “spoonies” everywhere have proudly embraced it. Expect laughs, real-life examples, and gentle validation for anyone who’s ever had to choose between washing their hair or answering an email.Whether you're running on one spoon or a full drawer, this episode is for you.⁠⁠Free Webinar - All I Want For Christmas... Is My Sanity - Preparing for Christmas Living with a Chronic Health Condition⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠⁠If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

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• The Pity Model: When Good Intentions Miss the Mark

  We often hear about the medical and social models of disability — but there’s another one quietly shaping attitudes toward people with chronic illness and disability: the pity model, sometimes called the charity model.This model positions people as tragic or brave simply for existing, creating distance rather than connection. It can show up in fundraising drives, well-meaning comments, or systems that treat support as generosity rather than rights.In this episode, we unpack how pity disguises itself as kindness, how it impacts self-worth and inclusion, and what it takes to move from sympathy to solidarity.⁠Free Webinar - All I Want For Christmas... Is My Sanity - Preparing for Christmas Living with a Chronic Health Condition⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠⁠⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)⁠If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit⁠ ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠⁠.⁠⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

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• What an Ego!

  In this episode, we’re talking about ego - not in the “you’ve got a big ego” kind of way, but in the psychological sense: the part of us that helps shape our identity, our sense of control, and how we relate to the world.For people living with chronic health conditions, understanding ego is powerful. Because illness challenges everything the ego likes: control, competence, independence, achievement, and identity.We’ll unpack what ego is, what it looks like when it’s in balance or out of balance, and how awareness of ego can support acceptance, connection, and self-compassion.Free Webinar - All I Want For Christmas... Is My Sanity - Preparing for Christmas Living with a Chronic Health Condition⁠⁠⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠But You’ll Be OK (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

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