In this episode, Sally and Seona ask the big question: do we always have to forgive to move on? Spoiler alert - nope! They dive into the messy, very human experiences of being hurt by others (hello, unhelpful doctors and disappearing friends) and explore why forgiveness isn't always the right fit. With warmth and humour, they chat about what healing can look like when forgiveness feels too hard, too soon, or just not right. Think boundaries, meaning-making, and self-compassion instead. Whether you're a full-on forgiver or still rage-writing letters you’ll never send, this episode reminds you that healing is personal — and you get to do it your way.Sign up for our free webinar here! Combatting the "What If's" of Anxiety with Sally Shaw and Seona IlalioLivology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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Let's Talk Attachment Styles
In this episode of But You Look So Good, we dive into the fascinating world of attachment styles—how they’re formed, how they show up in adult relationships, and how chronic illness can add a whole new layer.We chat about what it’s like navigating connection, vulnerability, and independence when your body doesn’t always cooperate. Whether you lean anxious, avoidant, secure, or somewhere in-between, this episode is all about understanding your patterns with curiosity and compassion—not shame.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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Medical Gaslighting
Worried you’ll be dismissed? Talked over? Told it’s just anxiety again? You’re not overreacting — you’re navigating a healthcare system that often fails to believe people with chronic conditions. In this episode, Sally and Seona unpack the quiet damage of medical gaslighting and the very real impact of ableism in healthcare. If you've ever second-guessed your symptoms or left an appointment feeling worse than when you walked in, this one’s for you. We talk about why it happens, how it messes with your head, and how to start backing yourself — even when the system doesn’t.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?
Why is asking for help so hard—even when we desperately need it? In this honest and light-hearted episode, two psychologists with lived experience unpack the emotional knots and social expectations that make help-seeking feel so awkward for people living with chronic health conditions.Through humour, relatable stories, a sprinkle of psychological theory, and a couple of role plays, they explore how asking for help can be a powerful act of strength—not weakness. Whether you’re a seasoned chronic illness CEO or just sick of hauling your own grocery bags, this episode is your gentle nudge to lean in, let go, and lighten the load.Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
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Do I Talk About My Condition Too Much?
“Am I oversharing? Are people sick of hearing about it? Should I just pretend I’m fine?” This week, Sally and Seona unpack the surprisingly loaded question: Do I talk about my chronic health condition too much? If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself mid-sentence or worried you’re becoming “that friend,” this one’s for you. We explore the internal and external pressures to minimise your experience — from polite silence to social masking — and dig into the fear of being seen as negative, dramatic, or attention-seeking. We’ll talk about internalised ableism, boundaries, why validation isn’t oversharing, and how being honest about your reality can create deeper connection (yes, even when it’s messy).As always, expect warmth, lived experience, and a few tangents. Because maybe the real question isn’t “Am I talking too much?” — it’s “Why do I feel like I have to shrink myself to be heard?”Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit Befrienders Worldwide.Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast
Two psychologists on a mission to illuminate the realities of living with chronic health conditions. Hosted by Sally Shaw and Seona Ilalio, both living with chronic conditions themselves. They lead Livology, a private practice specialising in psychological support for those navigating chronic health challenges. Tune in to hear candid conversations and professional insights designed to create community and connection within the chronic health conditions population.
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