You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist

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If you take one thing from today’s episode, let it be this: parents of gender-confused youth can now take a quiz on my website to identify which archetypal themes they’re struggling with and which ROGD Repair lessons can help. That’s the big news here.
If you take a second thing from today, let it be this: all my websites got a makeover. Whether you’re a listener, course member, client, or otherwise interested in anything I do, you’ll find the resources easy to navigate. Whether you visit StephanieWinn.com, SomeTherapist.com, or ROGDrepair.com, you’ll find what you’re looking for.
The biggest criticism I hear about ROGD Repair is that it’s a lot, and parents don’t know where to start. So I built a quiz. It sorts you into parenting archetypes based on your disposition: whether you freeze under stress, doubt yourself, or obsess over research. I walk through a sample result, the Penitent, for a parent whose guilt makes every boundary negotiable, and show how the results point you to the lessons that fit your family.
I also cover how my websites now work as one connected site, with a Clients button that always gets you where you need to go, and a rebuilt Bookshop. Then I explain why I trained RepairBot to ask more questions and give shorter answers, even though some of you found that frustrating. Good help depends on knowing your child’s personality and your relationships, not on generic scripts. Finally, I share ways to cut through the overwhelm: the “who this is for” summaries on each lesson, listening to the course like a podcast, and the new Unpacked Concept Animations series.
This honestly isn’t interesting to listen to, so if you’re an audio-only kind of person or don’t care about navigating my websites, go ahead and skip it. But please pass along the websites to whoever might need them.

[00:00:00] Start
[00:02:45] Why I Built a Quiz for ROGD Parents
[00:07:00] Quiz Results: The Penitent Parent Archetype
[00:14:10] Tour of the Connected Websites and Client Hub
[00:19:40] The Rebuilt Sometherapist.com Bookshop
[00:25:35] Why RepairBot Asks More Questions
[00:29:30] Listening to ROGD Repair on the Go
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community gives concerned parents instant access to over 120 lessons providing the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Now featuring 24/7 personalized AI support implementing the tools with RepairBot! Use code SOMETHERAPIST2026 to take 50% off your first month.

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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.

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Pastor and counselor Chris Legg returns to talk about something he sees in nearly every grad student who arrives for training at Aletheia Family Counseling Center: fear. After 25 years of training new therapists from seminaries, secular universities, and everything in between, Chris says most show up convinced a lawsuit is coming the moment anyone learns what they personally believe.
We start with the phrase "check your values at the door," and Chris shows why it collapses under its own logic. He tells the story of a local university that stopped sending students to Aletheia after an intern wrote that she was glad she wasn't required to counsel same-sex couples, and what happened when he asked the professors whether a survivor of assault should be required to treat abusers.
We also look at what the record actually shows about therapists getting in trouble for declining certain clients, why the process is so often the punishment, and why some talented clinicians are giving up their licenses to work as coaches. I explain why I kept my license but do my work as a coach.
Then Chris speaks directly to grad students and interns: you matter to the therapeutic process, and you don't have to practice in constant fear. What does it look like to expose your faith without imposing it? And where can counselors with conservative or religious values find mentorship?
Pastor Chris Legg, LPCs, and his wife Ginger have been living out the parable of God’s love for His people since 1993 and have been blessed with five great kids. He is the Lead Pastor at South Spring Baptist Church in Tyler, TX (www.southspring.org) and is also the founding owner and clinical director of Alethia Family Counseling Center (www.alethiacounseling.com), which offers training, counseling, speaking and business consulting in several locations in Texas. He and his son, Mark, are the authors of the book Sex and Marriage, which is intended to restore to marriages the power God intended. Learn more about SSBC at www.southspring.org. More about Alethia at www.alethiacounseling.com.
Contact Chris, read any of his articles, and look for other resources at his website at www.chrismlegg.com and at https://chrismlegg.substack.com/
[00:00:00] Start
[00:03:35] Why Grad Students Fear Their Own Values
[00:08:08] University Cuts Ties Over Same-Sex Couples Policy
[00:11:34] Competency, Referrals, and Therapist Boundaries
[00:20:43] Do Therapists Really Lose Licenses Over Refusals
[00:24:55] Board Complaints: The Process Is the Punishment
[00:30:44] Aletheia's Bylaws: Therapy as Protected Speech
[00:32:44] Why Therapists Trade Licenses for Coaching
[00:42:12] Chris's Message to Anxious New Therapists
[00:55:07] Imposing vs. Exposing Values in Therapy
[00:59:53] How Conversion Therapy's Meaning Shifted
[01:02:17] Advice for Therapists in Blue States
[01:10:27] Cross-State Licensing Laws and PSYPACT
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community gives concerned parents instant access to over 120 lessons providing the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Now featuring 24/7 personalized AI support implementing the tools with RepairBot! Use code SOMETHERAPIST2026 to take 50% off your first month.

PODCOURSES: use code SOMETHERAPIST at LisaMustard.com/PodCourses

PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.

MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.

 ALL OTHER LINKS HERE.

To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.

Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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Katy Faust returns to the podcast, and this time the conversation goes somewhere I didn’t expect. Katy founded Them Before Us to defend children’s right to their mother and father, and she opens by laying out the three principles that drive her work: children have a right to life, children need their mom and dad, and children should not be bought and sold. Those convictions put her at odds with almost everyone at some point, which is exactly why I wanted to talk with her again.
What makes this episode different is how personal it gets. Katy asks me, as a therapist, whether children ever really get over losing a parent. That question opens into a long exchange about ego strength, earned secure attachment, and why a twenty-year-old can’t yet see what a forty-year-old can about the childhood in their rear view mirror. I share more about my own psychic foundations than I have before on this show, picking up on the personal disclosures in my recent conversation with Soad Tabrizi. 
We also get practical. Katy shares what it took to help the son they adopted at age two to finally feel secure after neglect and abandonment. Katy explains the “no flinch rule” from her book on parenting, why self-esteem comes from doing hard things rather than hearing praise, and why American parenting has the freedom-to-constraint ratio backwards. And we talk directly to parents who built their families through donor conception or surrogacy: how do you hold the complexity of loving your children while staying open to what they may be grieving as a result of your choices?
Katy Faust is Founder and President of Them Before Us, a global movement defending children’s right to their mother and father. She publishes, speaks and testifies widely on why marriage and family are matters of justice for children. Her articles have appeared in outlets including Newsweek, USA Today, Fox News, The Federalist, Public Discourse, WORLD Magazine, First Things, and the Blaze. She is on the advisory board for the Alliance for Responsible Citizenship. She detailed her philosophy of worldview transmission in her book, Raising Conservative Kids in a Woke City. Her third book, Pro-Child Politics was published September 2024. She is spearheading Greater Than which aims to retake legal marriage on behalf of children. She and her husband have raised their four children in Seattle. Katy previously appeared on this podcast in episode 145. Putting Children’s Needs Before Adults’ Desires with Katy Faust.
Substack: Them Before Us | Katy Faust
Facebook: Them Before Us
Instagram: @them_before_us
Podcast: Them Before Us Podcast
X: @ThemBeforeUs
Website: Them Before Us
X | @Katy_Faust
Facebook |Katy Faust
Website |Katy Faust
Instagram |@katyfaustofficial
Books mentioned in this episode:
Them Before Us: Why We Need a Global Children’s Rights Movement — Katy Faust
Raising Conservative Kids in a Woke City — Katy Faust, co-authored (the co-author is referred to only as “Stacy” in the transcript)
Pro-Child Politics — Katy Faust, ed. (a collection of 19 subject-matter experts writing on policy through a child-first lens)
[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:59] Right To Life, Mother And Father, Not Bought And Sold
[00:13:07] Adults Should Do Hard Things For Children
[00:19:25] Children Who Lost A Parent By Adult Choice
[00:22:32] Ego Strength And Honest Reflection
[00:31:00] Earned Secure Attachment
[00:32:56] Adopting A Son Starved Of Everything
[00:36:16] Parenting From Guilt And Weak Boundaries
[00:40:10] American Parenting Has It Upside Down
[00:47:12] Where Self-Esteem Actually Comes From
[00:51:09] Emotional Intimacy And The No Flinch Rule
[01:00:04] Advice For Parents Who Used Donors Or Surrogacy

ROGD REPAIR Course + Community gives concerned parents instant access to over 120 lessons providing the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Now featuring 24/7 personalized AI support implementing the tools with RepairBot! Use code SOMETHERAPIST2026 to take 50% off your first month.

PODCOURSES: use code SOMETHERAPIST at LisaMustard.com/PodCourses

PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.

MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.

 ALL OTHER LINKS HERE.

To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.

Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow u...

I'm eager to welcome back Lynn Chadwick, a retired NICU nurse and founder of Themis Resource Fund, to discuss the critical landscape of detransition lawsuits and legal accountability in medical transition. We dive deep into the first detransition lawsuit victory—the Varian v. Einhorn case—where a therapist was found 70% culpable, and what this landmark decision means for mental health professionals.
Lynn shares how Themis is supporting detransitioned individuals seeking litigation assistance, the major barriers they face (including the statute of limitations crisis that prevents most cases from moving forward), and how the FTC investigation into fraudulent billing practices is changing the legal landscape. We explore the difference between autonomy and medical ethics, why expanding statute of limitations laws is critical work that needs grassroots advocates, and how parents and professionals can support this effort. Most importantly, Lynn articulates a vision of evidence-based medicine—one that prioritizes healing and truth over harm, and recognizes that young, healthy people deserve protection, not procedures that damage their bodies for life. This conversation tackles the intersection of parental advocacy, legal justice, and the path forward for families navigating detransition.
Lynn Chadwick is a retired NICU nurse who became a parent advocate after two of her children medically transitioned. She founded Themis Resource Fund to provide detransitioned individuals with litigation assistance.
ThemisResourceFund.org
X: @ThemisRF
Lynn's previous episode on my podcast: 182. From Estrangement to Advocacy: Lynn Chadwick on Parental Identity After Your Child Transitions

ROGD Repair article mentioned: The Belief That Builds Its Own Cage: The Causal Chain of Consequence in Trans Ideation
Special Offer for Listeners: Donate $500 or more to Themis Resource Fund and forward your receipt to hello@sometherapist.com to receive lifetime access to ROGD Repair as a thank you gift from Stephanie.

[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:33] Understanding Detransition Lawsuits
[00:03:45] Politics & Humanity Divide
[00:07:00] Medicine Requires Evidence-Based Practice
[00:10:00] Mental Health Data Contradicts Narratives
[00:31:00] The Regret & Remorse Timeline
[00:33:30] Statute of Limitations Crisis
[00:40:30] FTC Investigation & Billing Fraud
[00:43:00] Litigation Barriers & Legal Strategy
[00:48:30] The Coming Wave of Cases
[00:52:30] Family Therapy & Reconciliation
[01:01:00] Expert Witnesses & Professionals
[01:05:00] Themis Resource Fund Support
[01:08:15] Camille Kifer Settlement Success
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community gives concerned parents instant access to over 120 lessons providing the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Now featuring 24/7 personalized AI support implementing the tools with RepairBot! Use code SOMETHERAPIST2026 to take 50% off your first month.

PODCOURSES: use code SOMETHERAPIST at LisaMustard.com/PodCourses

PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.

MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.

 ALL OTHER LINKS HERE.

To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
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Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.

Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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I can’t believe I’m doing this. 
My friend Soad Tabrizi — therapist, founder of Conservative Counselors, and a returning guest — asked if she could reverse-interview me about my own story, and I said yes. What came out was far more than I planned to share, and even if you’ve been following my work for years, it’s probably all new to you.
I talk about growing up a white girl near Compton and Inglewood in the 1990s, the racial scapegoating I faced as a child, and the nutritional and emotional neglect that shaped my body and nervous system for decades. I describe the father I’ve called an autistic narcissist, a mother who loved me but couldn’t see me, and the bullying that pushed me into a punk, anarchist, runaway adolescence. I trace the path from a near-fatal drinking incident at fourteen through cults in Hawai’i, the Hare Krishnas in LA, and finally a near-stranger’s intervention that sent me to college and, eventually, into this profession.
Why tell any of this? Because so much of what I teach parents — about willful children, suicide threats, meeting kids where they are, forgiveness, and how to apologize well — comes straight out of what I lived through, and went without. This is the person behind the professional, and the deficits that became my life’s work.
Podcasts are not therapy, and I’m not your therapist — but I hope my story helps you see your own kids, and yourself, with a little more grace.
Watch the full episode here on Substack. Click here to find it on your podcast listening platform of choice. Click here to find it on YouTube.
Soad Tabrizi is a licensed marriage and family therapist with more than 15 years of clinical experience. She runs a telehealth private practice from her office in Orange County, California, and is the founder of Conservative Counselors, a directory connecting clients with reality-based mental health professionals who share their values. Soad is a contributing opinion writer for Human Events and publishes a subscriber-supported Substack focused on the corruption and ideological capture of the mental health field, as well as commentary on culture and politics. She is known for challenging woke orthodoxy in mental health and encouraging conservative professionals to stop hiding their values and start speaking openly about them. She previously appeared on episodes 65. Conservative Patients in Therapy with Soad Tabrizi and 103. Truth, Hope, & Mental Health | Michael DC Bowen, Pamela Garfield-Jaeger & Soad Tabrizi.
www.soadtabrizi.com
www.conservativecounselors.com
https://x.com/SoadTabrizi
https://www.facebook.com/soadtabrizi
https://www.instagram.com/soadtabrizi/

[00:00:00] Start
[00:05:22] Warmth, Coldness, And Humility
[00:10:00] Ego Strength And Online Scapegoating
[00:13:45] A White Girl In Compton
[00:19:30] Childhood Nutritional Neglect
[00:25:45] The 1992 Riots And Racial Scapegoating
[00:32:00] Having An Autistic Narcissist For A Father
[00:44:19] Middle School Humiliation
[00:57:29] Punk Years And The Masc Mask
[01:06:45] Handling Teen Suicide Threats
[01:09:20] A Teenage Overdose
[01:18:14] Burning Out And Escaping To Hawaii
[01:22:45] One Cult After Another
[01:29:45] A Surprise Intervention
[01:36:15] Finding Belonging In Santa Cruz
[01:42:26] The Question Of Forgiveness
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community gives concerned parents instant access to over 120 lessons providing the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Now featuring 24/7 personalized AI support implementing the tools with RepairBot! Use code SOMETHERAPIST2026 to take 50% off your first month.

PODCOURSES: use code SOMETHERAPIST at LisaMustard.com/PodCourses

PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.

MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.

 ALL OTHER LINKS HERE.

To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.

Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.

Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.

★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★