Happy Homebirth

Have you ever felt called toward something… but been completely terrified to do it?

This week, we're joined by Ally Roberson, a wife, mother of two, homesteader, and creator documenting her family's journey toward a more intentional life in rural Georgia. When Ally became pregnant with her second baby, she found herself pulled toward homebirth. But there was one major obstacle standing in the way:

Fear.

My friends, today's episode is for the woman who wonders if she's strong enough.

The woman who loves the idea of physiological birth but in the back of her mind thinks, "That might work for other women, but not for me."

 

Episode Roundup: 

 

First...

 Fear does not always have to disappear completely before you move forward.

I think so many women are waiting for confidence to arrive before they commit to homebirth, before they trust their bodies, before they step into labor.

But Ally's story is an example of leading with courage, not confidence.  She didn’t feel confident, but boy did she prove to be courageous.

Ally admitted that she remained afraid throughout her pregnancy. She didn't suddenly wake up at 39 weeks feeling fearless. She simply continued taking the next step.

That fear is actually one of the reasons  I created Whole Mother Homebirth.

Because fear is one of the most common concerns I hear from women preparing for birth. Not necessarily fear of homebirth itself—but fear that they won't be able to cope. That labor will be too intense. Fear that they don't have what it takes.

Inside the course, we spend a significant amount of time addressing fear, nervous system regulation, mindset, relaxation techniques, and practical tools to help women prepare mentally and emotionally for labor.  Podcast listeners get a 10% discount when they use the code PODCAST at checkout- the link is in the show notes or go to myhappyhomebirth.com and click homebirth course

 

next…

I loved hearing the contrast between intervention-heavy care and family-centered care.

One of the most striking parts of Ally's story wasn't even labor itself—it was the difference in how she felt: The difference between being on the clock and being supported…feeling managed vs. feeling cared for…being a patient vs being a mother.

Birth is physiological, but good golly is it also deeply emotional. The environment, the people surrounding us, the sense of safety and support…. It all very much matters. And Ally's experience highlights that beautifully.

 

Finally…

Can we talk about that 11-pound baby?

Woof, I think that's going to be the headline everyone remembers.

But I hope you’ll take away even more than the fact that Ally birthed an 11-pound baby at home.

Through the process, she realized she was designed to do more than she believed she could.  

For so long she had been telling  herself, "Other women can do this, but not me."

But then she did it.  She kept moving forward despite her own fears, and she reached the other side with a whole new perspective of herself and her body.

Is that you?  Are you on the before side wondering if you can actually pull it off?  You don’t have to be completely fearless– you can still be courageous and keep moving forward.

 

Link:

 

Ally’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@allylothman

 

Redeem ™ |  https://hubs.ly/Q03K0Dr90

“Click here to learn more about REDEEM HealthShare Ministry”

 

Whole Mother Homebirth | https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/wholemotherhomebirth (use code PODCAST for 10% off)

 

Youtube Episode Link: https://youtu.be/O2IXrQ66VGQ?si=XrSAjlRsymV2izED

Have you ever been so certain about a decision that, even when everyone around you questioned it, you knew deep down it was the right path for you?

 

My friends, today’s conversation is a fascinating look at conviction, trust, and what it means to take full responsibility for your birth experience.

This week, we're speaking with Gabrielle Lacey, a wife, mother, welder-turned-farmer, and soon-to-be mother of three living in the mountains of North Carolina. Gabrielle shares the stories of her first two free births, both of which unfolded in unique and memorable ways.  

 

Episode Roundup:

 

1. I keep coming back to the power of preparation.

Whether or not you’d give birth unattended, one thing is undeniable about Gabby’s choices: she spent years thinking about birth before she ever became pregnant. She listened to stories, studied, asked questions, and spent time considering what she believed about birth and motherhood.

 

2. I loved hearing the difference between Gabby’s first and second births.

Her first birth felt very independent.

It was just Gabby and her mother-in-law, taking the situation as it came.  In the end, they were the only ones who witnessed her daughter’s entrance, with Gabby’s husband Hayden arriving 15 minutes later.

But by her second pregnancy, she had built a community– one that she wanted to witness her birth.

She talked about hosting women's circles, finding friendships with other mothers, and inviting support into the experience.

How special that she’s experienced the birthing process in two very different ways. 

 

3. The theme that stayed with me most was trust.

Trusting her body.

Trusting her baby.

Trusting the process.

There was that incredible moment during her first birth when her baby's head was born and then everything paused. Instead of panic, Gabby prayed. She spoke to her baby. She stayed present. And eventually labor resumed exactly as it needed to.

What a reminder:

Fear is not the only option when something unexpected happens.

And one more thing before we close.

I loved Gabby's reflection at the very end of our conversation when she talked about trusting babies.

Not rushing them.

Not forcing timelines or assuming we know better than they do.

How beautifully does this translate to motherhood: Trusting that our children are participating in this journey with us.  We’re working together as we grow.

 

 

Link:

 

Gabby's Instagram | www.instagram.com/humble.hill.homestead

Redeem ™ |  https://hubs.ly/Q03K0Dr90

“Click here to learn more about REDEEM HealthShare Ministry”

 

Whole Mother Homebirth | https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/wholemotherhomebirth (use code PODCAST for 10% off)

 

Youtube Episode Link: https://youtu.be/nTGVW4bIHH4

Have you ever looked back on a past birth experience and realized…
“Wow, I didn’t actually know how powerful my body was”?

 

This week, we're speaking with Melissa Gurd, wife to her husband Jason and mother of six children living on a family homestead in Florida. Melissa shares the progression of her birth experiences over the last decade—from medically managed hospital births, to a frustrating cesarean in 2020, to finally discovering the peace and redemption of homebirth.

 

Episode Roundup:

 

First…
For some mothers, the deepest birth education happens through experience.

Melissa described entering her early births with very little understanding of physiological birth, or at least without a sense of deeper purpose or desire around experiencing it for herself.

So many of us in our childbearing years grew up hearing that birth is something to manage– that it’s risky, and it’s something best left to the professionals.

But over time, Melissa began learning more about how the body works, how positioning matters, how nourishment matters, how patience matters… and it transformed  the way she approached birth.

Second…
I loved hearing the redemption woven into her homebirth after cesarean.

Especially the moment when she realized that her fourth baby weighed exactly the same as the baby she had previously been told was “too big” to birth naturally.

How powerful is that?  Melissa was able to see what her body was capable of when she was supported, unrushed, and allowed to labor physiologically.  She knew now for certain that she could do this.

Another thing that stood out to me was Melissa’s honesty about waiting.

Forty-two week pregnancies.
Prodromal labor.
The emotional ups and downs of wondering – is today the day?

I think prolonged pregnancy and prodromal labor can be one of the most refining parts of pregnancy, and extremely applicable to motherhood:

You can’t force it.
You can't control it.
You can only sit in the reality that this is outside of you.

I loved when Melissa said that birth taught her patience because it’s one of the few things in life that so tangibly shows us we do not have control.

And finally…
I just loved the family-centered beauty expressed through Melissa’s journey.

Children waiting excitedly for their siblings.
A daughter hearing the baby cry and bursting into tears of joy.
Generations living together on the same property.
Babies entering the world surrounded by love and loved ones. 

Wow.  In this way, birth is not separated from family life— it’s integrated directly into it.  Which is one reason so many women are drawn to homebirth in the first place.  It honors the entire family ecosystem.

 

Links:

 

Redeem ™ |  https://hubs.ly/Q03K0Dr90

“Click here to learn more about REDEEM HealthShare Ministry”

 

Whole Mother Homebirth | https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/wholemotherhomebirth (use code PODCAST for 10% off)

 

Youtube Episode Link: https://youtu.be/LuRSr2-0sZk?si=4vwBJNQ4MjBXZPgp

What happens when the birth you prayed for…doesn’t happen?

And how do you move forward when the thing you prepared for so carefully
ends in grief, disappointment, and questions you never expected to ask?

 

This week, we're speaking with Raylee, a homeschool mother of two from Texas who is passionate about Montessori education, physiological birth, and intentional motherhood. Raylee grew up in a large homeschooling family and witnessed homebirth from a young age, which shaped the way she viewed birth long before becoming a mother herself.

 

Episode roundup:

 

First…
I think this episode speaks so deeply to the grief that can come when birth doesn’t unfold the way we hoped.

Raylee prepared intensely for her first birth. She studied. She visualized. She cared for herself well. And yet—her birth ended in a way she never expected.

I know that many mothers understand that kind of heartbreak.

When your expectations and your reality feel worlds apart.

But what moved me most was hearing how her perspective was renewed over time—not minimizing the pain, not pretending it was easy—but Raylee found profound meaning and growth within her experience and decided to take responsibility for her journey.  This intentional step out of victimhood catalyzed a huge spiritual change in her life.  One she wouldn’t take back even if she could.

Next…
I kept thinking about the difference between control and prepared surrender.

With her first birth, Raylee described feeling very certain about how things would go. And after that experience, she entered her second pregnancy differently.

She still prepared, she was still intentional, but her edges truly softened in a noticeable way.  

Raylee was less attached to perfection and far more open-handed.

Surrender does not guarantee a certain outcome—but it changes the way we move through the experience itself, however it unfolds.

 

And finally…
Raylee’s second birth was such a beautiful picture of trust– and it was revealed slowly.

Over days of early labor, Over intentional healing work, prayer.
And through choosing to believe her body was capable again.

I loved hearing her describe labor as intense… but not frightening. Powerful… but not pathological.

Which is a huge distinction:

Physiological birth is not necessarily painless.
But it also does not have to feel traumatic.

And when women are supported, uninterrupted, nourished, and safe… the body often knows exactly what to do.

 

 

Links:

 

Redeem ™ |  https://hubs.ly/Q03K0Dr90

“Click here to learn more about REDEEM HealthShare Ministry”

 

Whole Mother Homebirth | https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/wholemotherhomebirth (use code PODCAST for 10% off)

 

Youtube Episode Link: https://youtu.be/FSypyheqzoY

What happens when the person working inside the hospital system…
still chooses homebirth for herself?

And… what does it look like when years of witnessing birth—
the beauty of it, the interventions, the emergencies, the physiology—
leads someone not further from instinctive birth…
but deeper into trust?

This week, we're joined by Alehson Treadwell, a labor and delivery nurse, IBCLC, and mother of three, whose personal birth experiences evolved alongside her years caring for women inside of the hospital system.

 

Episode Roundup: 

 

First…
I think her story is such a powerful reminder that knowledge does not have to create fear.

Alehson has spent over sixteen years working as a labor and delivery nurse. She has seen complications. She has seen intervention. She knows the hospital system deeply. And yet—rather than moving further away from physiological birth, she moved into it.

Sometimes understanding physiology more deeply actually increases trust in the body—not decreases it.

 

Next,
I love the progression we hear across her births.

Her first birth held anxiety, timelines, and the pressure of approaching forty-two weeks. Her second birth was fast and overwhelming in a completely different way– But by her third birth, we hear a mother who has settled into pregnancy, labor and trusting herself more thoroughly. 

I especially loved hearing how specific she became in prayer during that final pregnancy.

She prayed for the right people to be there, to be present, and to have peace.


And finally…
This conversation around postpartum nourishment is so important.

Alehson spoke candidly about postpartum anxiety, depletion, low ferritin, and the connection between nourishment and mental health.  The truth is we cannot separate the physical from the emotional. What happens in the body can impact the emotional, and vice versa.  Which means that rest matters.Minerals.  Water.  Warm nourishing food.  It’s foundational.

 

Links:

 

Redeem ™ |  https://hubs.ly/Q03K0Dr90

“Click here to learn more about REDEEM HealthShare Ministry”

 

Restorative Roots  | restorativeroots.com (use code HAPPYHOMEBIRTH for $20 off your first order)

 

Whole Mother Homebirth | https://www.myhappyhomebirth.com/wholemotherhomebirth (use code PODCAST for 10% off)

 

Youtube Episode Link: https://youtu.be/TXEaxJEg1-I