1. We all experience the feeling being stuck sometimes.2. The state of "stuck" is an opportunity,3. Your perception of "stuck" will determine how you experience it--you hold the power to decide.4. Self-awareness is key and so is the movement forward--all steps are meaningful regardless of size of shift.5. Seek support in helping to get Unstuck.
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The C Word:Not the Naughty One
Take-aways
1. Conflict is normal.
2. Conflict is an opportunity for growth.
3. If conflict escalates--call a pause and time to reconvene.
3. How to address conflict: get curious, avoid blame, use I statements, avoid absolutes, do not attack character, address behaviour.
4. Reflection: what is your relationship with conflict? From where/whom did you adopt this relationship? Is it serving you in a productive way?
1. Get to know yourself where you are at in the present and what fits for you in the present.
2. Be open and transparent about what you are looking for.
3. Do not attach self to future relationship outcomes.
4. Offer yourself grace as you figure it out.
5. You do not need to be in relationship--being coupled is not the ideal for everyone.
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Expectations: Helpful to Harmful
1.  We move through life with healthy expectations. All behaviour is on a continuum—can shift from healthy to problematic.Â
2.Expectations can lead to resentments if left unchecked.
3. How do you check this pattern of behaviour? Do you notice absolute statements? e.g. I never get what I need. Are you attached to outcomes? Do you notice pattern in conflicts—other relationships or repeated conflict in same relationship?
4. How do we navigate expectations? Honesty with self and other, vulnerability, communication, accountability, and negotiation of expectations.
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